I am desperate to figure this out. a girl in a kickboxing class I take is wonderful and I'm very into her. I get very good vibes and she talks, smiles and shares with me. But.. she mentioned having a BF weeks ago indirectly.. saying she wouldn't be in class on such an such a day because she needed to get her BF from the airport. Then never hear a word about him again. She likes when we work together and gets a little forgetful and giddy when we do things. When our eyes meet, in all honesty, it's like magic and I know she feels it too.. I'm sure of it. ok, my problem is that I don't want to ask her out in fear of making her uncomfortable if she really isn't interested. I talk to her briefly after classes for a couple of minutes about stuff like her school, job etc.. but never mention BF or anything. what should I do, I'm a grown man and feel like an idiot, but I don't want to blow anything if there is a chance and there might not be.
2007-11-13 04:51:38 · 6 answers · asked by chinesemetaldog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm..
well i say you should just keep talking to her as friends. I know it'll be hard since you wanna know if she like you or not asap. but i think it would be better to get to know her and see how much you two have in common. This worked out for me when i liked this guy at work. I asked him for his number, then we started txting everyday. And he would call me every night and we would talk and get to know each other better. Then we started going out on dates and whatnot. After like 2 months of talking, i told him how i felt about him..and he felt the same way! We have been together for 5 months now. So hopefully you try this and everything works out for you.
2007-11-13 05:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by adorable_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to get some more information about this bf, which means you have to talk to her about it. If she hasn't mentioned him much, then he wouldn't seem to a big part of her life.
You already have a speaking, sharing relationship, so bring him up yourself. Something along the lines of: "You mentioned you had a boyfriend; what does he do that you had to pick him up from the airport that day?"
If you get her discussing their relationship, you'll get a better idea of how committed it is. If it seems mainly casual, then the following class maybe invite her for pie and coffee somewhere after class. Or maybe slide it into a dinner if the two of you seem to be hitting it off.
2007-11-13 13:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you're going to absolutely know if she likes you is if you ask her and she tells you.
Is there a chance that you two could go out after class? You don't have to make it sound like a date; just say, "I'm getting hungry, want to grab a bite?" as you're wakling out with her. If she says no, she's got to get home, just smile and say, "No problem, maybe next time." If she mentions the boyfriend again, you'll know he exists; if you're feeling really bold, invite him along as well. This shows you're interested in her on a friend level; obviously, if she has a boyfriend she's offlimits, but she'll at least know you like her and, after that, who knows what could happen.
2007-11-13 12:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel like that when your eyes meet and you think she feels the same i would just go for it, better to have know than not to have known, sounds to me as she might like you as women dont usually stare into a mans eyes if she not into him
2007-11-13 12:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by .... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say something like, hey you've mentioned a bf before, is he still in the picture. or what's up with him is he still around?
she'll let you know.
2007-11-13 12:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by bon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HER .
2007-11-13 12:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋