My sister in law and nephew moved in 2 months ago because of some lifes mysteries. Wife told me that it would tempory, but i say it is time to go. they have only given money for 1 month been living this month as to what i consider free. Now the nephew has his girlfriend staying over to late at night. Is it me when i sya its time go or i am just being selfish?
2007-11-13 04:37:12 · 4 answers · asked by REBEL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Selfish, NOPE....But, you are being used=)
2007-11-13 04:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Little big brains 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife. You both need to sit down with your 'guests' and discuss their plans for moving out. Are they working to say money to get a place and how close are they. Ask when, according to the budget you know they have set out, when do they expect that will be. Talk about them contributing to the household, since your expenses have no doubt increased having them there. You need to be clear you are there to help them get on their feet, but not to support them.
Now, these discussions should occur seperately. First between you and your wife. Second between your family and your sister-in-law then seperate with your nephew. Sounds like you also need to lay down the rules, such as their guests coming over and the hours they are allowed to do so. Remind them others in the household get up early, and guests can keep them from getting the rest they need.
Also, talk to your wife about the strain it puts on your relationship with her. You want to help, but your family comes first.
2007-11-13 12:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Meghan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats complicated. once, my brother in law's sister stayed for one "night" with her husband and four children, but it ended up lasting a year. and i was only related becuase i lived with my sister and her husband and their daughter. along with my dad and brother also living there. so as u can imagine i had no choice or say in the matter. even though i watched all five children many times, and felt invaded ALOT. three bedrooms and one bathroom btw. talk to them about it, and tell them if they expect housing that you expect pay and respect. it is after all your place.
2007-11-13 12:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by mutantninjalobsterbearkisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months is waaaaaaaaaaaaaay to long to have company. Give a deadline for their going and stick to it. There is a line between helping family members and enabling freeloaders and they have gone past it.
Head 'em up and move 'em out.
2007-11-13 12:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Just Hazel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋