I'm meeting a (unhappily) maried woman for drinks this afternoon. Who is sinning? Me or her?

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and I know how to spell married...darned dropped letter.

Soulful kris, I didn't think either of us was...

My signifcant other died 10/06/2006. She is separated, but not divorced.

Thanks guys, there are some good answers here!

I just thought I'd ask in case she brings it up. I'm pretty sure she has no idea yet that I don't believe in god.

Answer 1

nobody,

drinks are just drinks, if it develops further then...

you are both consenting adults.

It is a danger for YOU to become emotionally attatched though because odds are she is not leaving her husband for you.

If you keep it at a purely sexual level then from your prespective there is nothing wrong with it.

you aren't breaking any vows. You didn't make them she did.

unless of course you have some social connection to her husband and he is your friend, colleague, boss, family member, dad, cousin, etc.

EDIT: OEDIPUS REX SHALL RISE AGAIN!

Answer 2

True sin only exists when unhappiness exists.

Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You.

Do What Makes You A Truly Happy

Answer 3

You both are. It's already an emotional/mental affair if you know she is unhappily married. Instead of worrying about it being a sin, maybe you should be thinking about whether or not it is the right thing to do. How would you feel if it were your wife, whom you loved, and she snuck behind your back to find comfort in another man, because she was unhappy being with you?

Answer 4

If it's just for drinks as aquaintances then no one is sinning but if you are thinking beyond that and about having some kind of intimate relationship between the two of you...then i hope you realise that bothe of you are sinning.........it's called adultery....even if she is separated or whatever fact is she is still married!

Answer 5

The fact that you are thinking that one of you or both of you could be sinning is an indication to you that something is not right about this meeting and it is coming from your conscience. You already know your intentions and are aware of what COULD happen.

Answer 6

I don't believe in sin, but what you are doing is just wrong. Your part in this is you are taking advantage of a bad situation to benefit yourself as well as disrespecting the marriage of a fellow man and in essence betraying yourself. If you were in this mans shoes, how would you feel. If you really like this woman, respect yourself, her and her husband and wait for her to divorce. In the meantime, you would be a good friend by telling her to get some marriage counseling with her husband.

Answer 7

Is drinks codeword for "wild monkey sex"? If so then, both of you aren't doing the right thing. However if she is unhappily married and planning on divorce then maybe you should hold off until she gets half of his crap first.

Answer 8

If you're intimate with her, even figuratively, you have broken a commandment. She is not exempt from sin either, but, it's up to the two of you, you are both adults and know what you are getting into. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

If all you are doing is talking there is no problem but if you begin to get more romantic you are both to blame. Its wrong unless they are separated and on the way to divorce. There is a good chance you could get hurt, physically.

Answer 10

Both of you. You shouldn't be with a married woman at all. And she shouldn't be with anyone other than her husband. Happy, or otherwise. Sorry. You asked.