Ladies....answer this?

Question

Would you stay in a relationship where you came home after a hard days work, found out that your husband had...sure, spent the day with the kids...but spent most of it sitting in front of the computer, on the phone or sleeping. That when you came home...there is a mess of dishes in the sink, the kids havent eaten yet...and that your husband had yet again spent most of the paycheck you have given him on thing he didnt need. Add that fact that you havent been intimate with him in almost 6 months because he just didnt feel it was important...yet was all your fault.
Let me ask you....how many of YOU would have a problem with that? How many of you would start to feel selfish because you want more? How many of you would start daydreaming of what its like to be in a working relationship?
How many of you would think about what life is lik on the other side of the fence?

ok...maybe you are all missing the point to the question. Im a guy asking this question because my wife is doing just what i have written above. Im asking what you would do...becaise it just seams to me that because my wife is who she is, she can get away with it....but because im a man i have to just deal with the situation and shut up.

Answer 1

How would the relationship get to the point anyway? If I had problems in my relationship that my partner and I couldn't work out by ourselves, I'd go for counselling to have a neutral, third part to mediate between us. It takes two to start a marriage and it takes two to destroy one. I wouldn't just let things go bad then bail.

Answer 2

Sounds like you're not feeling so lucky, Lucky.
First of all, we all know very well that grass looks greener on the other side of the fence until you're there, and then it very often just turns out to be different but not necessarily better.
Separation and divorce when children are involved is a maddening time-consuming, money-crunching, emotionally tolling experience for the adults..... and needless to say the toll on the children. There's no guarantee you will find a greener pasture. Pretty much every married couple in the country has thought about it on occasion, when the ride is bumpy, but despite what the statistics tell you it should never be considered lightly. Extramarital affairs, tuning out, avoidance, drifting apart, etc., that people fall upon while trying to stay married but nonetheless not having their heart in it, in all likelihood will also lead to separation and divorce.
Exhaust tangible solutions to your current situation before considering any other options. Someone who spends the bulk of their day sleeping, on the phone, on the computer, and shopping for non-necessities while dishes pile up, dinner is postponed, and their mate is doing without sex..... is probably a depressed person lacking initiative, drive, motivation, self-esteem. Selfish and depressed go hand-in-hand because a depressed person is so wrapped up in their "pathetic" existence that they (to put it not so politely) have their head stuck up their butt.
By the time a marriage has this much water under the bridge, one problem is feeding another until it's a muddy mess. In example, you won't even have a request for sex out of your mouth before the other person is feeling resentful that that's "all you care about" and any opinion you give on a frivolous purchase will be resented just because it's a "cut down". These things..... frivolous purchases, dishes piling up, etc., are just the symptoms of an underlying problem. The solution does not lie in addressing these symptoms, but in finding the underlying problem and stitching it up. Otherwise a couple will become two players on opposing teams wearing opposing jersey colors instead of being teammates. Whether it be depression, boredom, resentment, low self-esteem..... whatever...... the underlying problem is what will have to be tackled.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Heck no! I would not like that relationship at all. The husband is not acting like a husband in this situation. Even though I don't believe in divorce I would not like to stay in this relationship. I would probably daydream. Sounds like the husband doesn't appreciate the wife. :-(
Even though I've never been in a relationship I answered this but oh well.
:-)

Answer 4

You should sit your partner down and have a talk with him and let him know how you're feeling. If he wants to save the relationship he'll change if he doesn't he will probably ignore what you've told him. If he doesn't change then you should just move on because you and your children deserve better than to have someone who doesn't even care enough to feed the kids. Come on he's not worth the stress you're going through and your children shouldn't have to go through that.

Answer 5

FIrst of all....there is NO WAY in God's green earth I would work while a man sits at home "caring" for my kids!..not to say men are not capable...but I am sure the percentage that are is very small! Why waste time daydreaming when by leaving a man such as the one you speak of there's really nothing to lose....

Answer 6

I would! but im being totally honest id be day dreaming 24/7 because well the grass is always greener on the other side.

Answer 7

tell your husband how you feel or maybe h could get anjob too or maybe you could cut down your hours at work to spend time with the kids but just keep nagging him to do stuff and tell him if he doesn't then maybe you need to split, talk 2 him

Answer 8

Well, I'd confront my husband and if he refuses to understand my side, or "see the light" then I'll tell him straight- We need couples counseling or we should consider a divorce.

Answer 9

6 months hun theres something wrong there most guys always want it.. hes prolly cheating on you.. an i wouldnt stay with him your not asking to much... hes just lazy and irresponsible

Answer 10

umm, i would tell him to start working on the relationship or get out....forget about dreaming about wat life could be like, go out an get it..!!! oh an to gooberlicious....no, the grass isnt always greener on the side...