We've been together for about 6. Since the beginning of the relationship he's always depended on me. We're both college students. I do have a weekly income, he doesn't. He refuses to find a job. He has tried a lot of places but because of his past, its difficult for him to find a job. But he did work for a company for approx. 1 1/2 before we met and I'm pretty sure he can get another position with them. But because he thinks he's too popular around campus, he refuses to apply again there for work. My past relationship has been similar to my current relationship. Am I wrong for not wanting to be with him anymore?
2007-11-13 04:17:27 · 49 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been together about 6 months.
2007-11-13 11:04:37 · update #1
no your not wrong, because that is a turn off. For someone to just mooch off you is annoying, and irritating. The reason he continues to do it, is because your giving him the money. Just tell him, that your money is for you and your expenses and that he needs to start trying to take care of himself. He is taking advantage because your his girlfriend, maybe if you break it off then maybe he'll take responsibility for his own well being. Or just make your self unavailable and avoid him when your paydays come around, he'll definitely get the picture. I use to have a lazy boyfriend and I would tell him when are you going to get a job and his reply would be, why should I get a job when I have you? And that did it for me.
2007-11-13 04:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by bn2nice 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This exact same situation was going on with my friend. Listen, he is dependent on you and he is not going to stop until you tell him there must be a change! Maybe he's the lazy type to find a job? You should help him find one. This way, he'll see that you're serious about this. Instead of helpin ghim financially, you can be saving up for something! That is your money, and you're not married. Don't let him use you!
He will keep asking and such cause he knows the money is there and you're going to give it to him. You should make up an excuse that you have to pay for something and you can't afford him anymore. He will ge the hint.
In conclusion: he needs to find a job or kick him to the curb!
2007-11-13 04:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Fwhyi 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
6 what, 1 1/2 what? Months, years, weeks?
Either way, you shouldn't be supporting him. If he didn't have you to pay his way, he'd have to find some way of making money - so when you stop taking care of this loser he'll have to do something about it. But so long as he has you to pay all the bills, why would he even bother? The fact that he's happy to do that, though, does make him sound like a total loser... so no, you're not wrong for not wanting to be with him anymore. Sounds like there's nothing in it for you at all, and he's sucking you dry. Find someone who's actually looking for a girlfriend, not a mother.
2007-11-13 04:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by marmiteontoast 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, no, no.....you are definitely not wrong!!! He's a freeloader with a capital F. I think you hit the nail on the head: "he refuses to find a job." That's beyond "trying and can't" or "want to but nothing available". He has no pride. No self-respecting male would depend on a woman for his upkeep. Here's another nugget: "My past relationship has been similar to my current relationship." You are obviously a generous, big-hearted woman who has an "underdog" susceptibility.....it takes one to know one, girl. Voice of experience talking. Get a "real" man......don't let this go on another day. You can not only "do" better, you are worth better. Treat yourself and take him out with the trash.
2007-11-13 04:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by transplanted_fireweed 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's not a boyfriend. He's a leech. You're not wrong for not wanting to be with a leech! You just tend to be a goal oriented person who makes things happen. You tend to end up in relationships with lazy guys who are the opposite of you. You just have to find a guy who is not a total bumb. Yeah - toss this fish back in the ocean - you can do way better. Let him find another "sugar mama."
2007-11-13 04:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you want to take a seat down him down and tell him you should favor to assist him financially- a thanks to funds. it really is ridiculous that he has a care 6 months and not in any respect have perfect insurance or tags- it really is basically no longer having your priorities instantly. it really is an severe priced lesson he has to study- also he ought to keep a ledger of what he spends and has so he doesn't overdraft. possibly even basically no longer have a economic organization account if it really is a threat if he's basically negative at funds.
2016-10-24 04:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see a very big red flag around this guy. By the way why should he get another job.....he already has one working as your boy toy. Honey, wake up and throw this lug out....then let's see just how popular he is when the other people realize that they have to support him.
2007-11-13 04:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by Gottaloveher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave this guy ASAP. He is using you! There are jobs everywhere especially this time of year. He should want to pay for things and spoil you. The fact that he isn't shows how he feels for you. Find yourself a real man
2007-11-13 04:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. He is not responsible and doesn't offer much of a future, don't waste any more time with this guy. If he isn't mature enough to hold a job, he isn't good relationship material.
2007-11-13 04:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pam H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is not wrong for you to feel this way about him. if he is to popular to go out and get a job what makes you think that he will ever be man enough to support you even after all you have done for him. it also sounds like you have a history with always being the supporter take a chance and find a guy that is going to support you for a change, its nice and you will feel alot better and not be so stressed about it
2007-11-13 04:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica Hall 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋