I have been in a relationship with this guy for four years now, and we both really love each other. I would like to think that he's THE ONE for me, but I am having second thoughts. Are you supposed to just know when he's the one, or is it normal to be having doubts? Like I really love the guy, and I know how much he loves me, but I'm confused. And I don't wanna just break up with him (in case he is the one), but at the same time, I am prolly wasting my time if I realize a couple years from now that I don't wanna spend the rest of my life with him.
2007-11-13 03:29:01 · 22 answers · asked by Doll♥. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one really knows. . . it's just a chance you take and hope and pray for the best.
2007-11-13 03:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by peaches6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when you're born, you dont have that special someone or "the one" out there in the world waiting for you. There's such things as soul mates but its not like god, buddha, whoever set em up for you. You date someone, become to love em, you grow to learn more about em. and from there you build up a strong and healthy relationship. You choose your own soulmate...just because you have doubts doesnt mean he's the one for you. Its not about feeling all that stomach butterflies because you can feel that way when you see someone you have a crush on or think is cute...does that mean they are the one for you? NO. If you both love eachother than let the relationship be...you shouldnt think about wasting time if he's not the one because no matter whatyou're learning something more about this person and love itself. Time will only tell if you both were truly meant for eachother. Dont go into conclusions
2007-11-13 11:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by alwaystonys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're letting yourself fall prey to a romantic idea: there's ONE guy out there for you. This isn't the case; if it was, there would be no divorces and remarriages, relationships would never end, and so on.
No relationship is ever a waste of time; you learn something from it and grow because of it. Just ask yourself if he's the guy you can envision marrying, having children with, and growing old with. Can you imagine being with him forever? Is there a reason you're having second thoughts? Have they always been there, or have they recently appeared? Are you still in love with him (not just love him - you can love friends, family members, etc.)?
The two of you need to talk, and soon. He deserves to know you're having second thoughts; maybe he's having them too. Work out the issues you have together.
2007-11-13 11:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if there is a way of telling if he is THE ONE, I have been with a couple of men and thought that they were the right one until I find out that they weren't and I had wasted 8 or 9 years you never know. I have been with this guy for 6 years and still don't know if he is the one. We split for about 9 months and in that time he dated others and talked me into going out with him again. Does anyone really know, it's a chance you have to take
good or bad.
2007-11-13 11:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nan of Many 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with someone for 3 years and I feel the way the way you do sometimes. I think it's normal to have doubts. I mean I don't think anyone stays in a relationship that long and never wonders "what if he's not it?". But if you're completely happy with him, and so in love and don't ever think of being with anyone else, nor can you imagine life without him I think he could be the one.
2007-11-13 11:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll know when hes the one when:
when he's on my mind all the time and get butterflies in my stoamch...when i think about us getting married and beyond...when i dream about him and even thinking about him, brings a smile in my face
and
Someone once posted this on Yahoo Answers and I LOVED their answer so I saved it!! I hope this helps.
"Falling head over heels in love feels a lot like it sounds. Your world is upside down. Everything reminds you of the person you’ve fallen for. Every time the phone rings, you hope it’s her. Everywhere you go, you hope she might be there. Every time you touch, it feels like electricity courses between you.
Alas, and I hate to bring reality into this lovely phase of life, but those feelings don’t last forever. If it’s real, true love, all that emotional nonsense gets replaced by REAL things about the person. She’s always there for you. She takes care of you when you’re sick. She sticks up for you when you’re not around. She remembers what you like. She treats you the way you want to be treated, the way you should be treating her. You look forward to seeing her at the end of the day, not because she’s hot, or new, or crazy in the sack but because she’s the person you tell about your day, and who gives you a hug, brings you a drink, and does whatever it is. And you do the same for her. And you do it because you love each other. You do it because that is the only way to make it work. And in the end, after all the sacrifices and tears and laughter and joy, you realize you have someone that you could not live without.
That’s love. All the silly emotional stuff in the beginning is fun, but it does not and can not last. It’s the base for more important things to come. And those things, while not as viscerally exciting as the butterflies-in-the-stomach phase, are REALLY what love is about. "
2007-11-13 11:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by ღ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you guys have been together 4 years and he hasn't asked you to marry him yet, he probably won't and if after 4 years you're still not sure you wanna spend the rest of your life with him, than he's probably not the one.
2007-11-13 11:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by prinsisss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know...
you may have a few fights here and there. but when it comes down to it ask yourself if you could spend the rest of your life with this person? If you truly can then they are the one.
2007-11-13 11:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
watch the movie License to Wed and see the both of you in that movie. if you cant then hang it up because that movie represent what you guys or anyone would go through after a few years pass.
2007-11-13 11:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by nickelbabe89 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i felt it from the first day we met. its been 3 years and i know that hes the only 1 for me.
I LOVE LUIS
2007-11-13 11:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him for 4 years....if you don't see yourself marrying him then he might not be the one....but don't do anything drastic and break-up with him...you might just be going through a slump...all relationships go through slumps. One thing my grandmother once told me....the one....is not someone you can live with....the one...is someone you can't live without. Ask yourself...can you live without him?
2007-11-13 11:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by ~irish~moon~star~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋