My wife is throwing her life away right now....drinking all day and night and is making poor choices. She does not want to be a mother or be married anymore. she is meeting guys online and falling for them easily and wants to meet these guys. She has an alcohol addiction but does not think she needs rehab. Last night she drank a 12 pack by herself in her room from 9pm to whenever she went to bed. Can I get her commited somehow?
2007-11-13 03:03:17 · 8 answers · asked by Javi 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think you can force her do anything. You need to take the kids out of that turbulent home and keep them away until she gets help. Otherwise, divorce and custody.
2007-11-13 03:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by laura1977 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way you can get her into rehab is if she is in danger of harming someone or herself. She obviously has a problem, but alcohol is not illegal, as is other things where you could just call the cops and they'd come and get her. If she gets in a vehicle and starts to drive or what have you then you could call authorities and let them know she is in danger of hurting herself or someone else, and they would have to take her in and she would have to get counseling. Depending on the state you live. I know thats how it is here in NY. Good luck, I hope for your family's sake she gets the help she needs.
2007-11-13 11:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to her doctor for a referral but frankly, you can't force a drunk to get sober. I would strongly suggest you start attending Alanon, get to a meeting today. This group will help you with this dilemma, and teach you how not to enable her drinking. You may have to leave her, and she may have to hit rock bottom, losing everything. Even then she may not help herself. This isn't easy to do, it took me almost 30years to finally do the right thing for him and throw him out(had his father come and get him). I wish I had had the strength to do it sooner, to avoid our daughters having to grow up with a drunk and to nearly losing everything. As it is he lost everything, his jobs, his car, his license, his health, his friends, his wife, his house and nearly his freedom. Saying enough is enough and putting him out of the house put him in the position of having to make a choice to live or die. He choose life and after 30years of saying he wasn't a drunk and he could control his drinking(yeah, everyone drinks beer for breakfast), he is now 4yrs sober. Unfortunately he'll never regain the really important things he lost, like his daughters respect.
Really, get yourself to a meeting today. There is nothing worse than watching someone you love fall into the abyss of booze, and you are going to have to be strong to raise your kids and maintain your sanity. Good luck to you.
2007-11-13 11:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly you cant..
she has to admit she has a problem and want to stop before she can get help...
cancell the internet service !
I would,,her drinking habbits are expensive and tell her you cant afford her drinks and the internet.
communication is the key here - talk to her - tell her that if she doesnt get help now, she will not only loose her marrage,but her children as well
ask her if thats what she wants - if she does or just doesnt care, then your hands are tied
ask her if she would be willing to go to counceling ..
if she would even be willing to go and talk to someone for a little while, that would be a start
2007-11-13 11:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should speak with someone that does intervention like one of said. I have seen a lot of success with it. in the meantime you should tell her she can no longer live in your home and needs to leave until she can be a remodel for the kids again. You should go to court and get custody of the kids.. good luck with everything
2007-11-13 11:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by MizZ Shawty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do now is pray for her. The only effective treatment for addictions is admission. If they admit it and want help, it will work. If not, you are beating a dead horse. Pray and believe the Lord. I am ! God Bless......
2007-11-13 16:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family intervention.
2007-11-13 11:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant hlp her until she wants help. do some tough love sounds mean but throw her out. sometimes tough love will open their eyes. its not good for u or ur children her being there doing this.
2007-11-13 11:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋