A guy virtually chased me to get my phone number and then calls me to arrange a date, but says he'll phone back with the arrangements for time and venue etc. Then he doesn't phone.
Then 4 days later calls me again to request that I go to meet him where he works that night (he's a bouncer) as he'd like to get to know me better!!!! before taking me on a date. I refuse coz 1) that's the whole point of going on a date and 2) I don't fancy trying to talk to someone whilst they're trying to work and 3) I'm not dropping everything at the last minute to go out with anyone, so he agrees to take me on a proper date but then wants to know if he can come back to my house, which I refuse point blank, so he agrees to take me out for a drink, but says he'll call back to make arrangements.
Amazingly, I haven't been holding my breath waiting for his call, as something tells me that it's not coming, but what is he up to?
I mean I'm finding his behaviour really, really bizarre and bemusing.
2007-11-13 02:58:53 · 19 answers · asked by Louise H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jarod - I'm not reacting, just responding cordially but assertively to his invitations. To be honest if he phones me again I'll politely decline. I think he's a bit crazy, now.
2007-11-13 03:14:59 · update #1
Odds10to1 - yeah but what woman with ANY self esteem would do that? and what type of man with ANY self esteem wants a woman that would? Oops guess I answered my own question. Wide berth being given.
2007-11-13 03:18:11 · update #2
paul c - i haven't got his number to block. The first time he called he called me from a payphone (even though I know he has a mobile coz that's what he stored my number on) and the second time he witheld his number.
2007-11-13 03:46:13 · update #3
This guy is a player - he's probably chasing three of 4 other women with the same gig - waiting to see which one he prefers that moment, which one will dive in.
If you wanted to find out, ask him directly what he's doing, and judge for yourself the honesty of the reply. It is possible there is some crazy thing going on in his life right then, who knows. Most likely your instincts are correct - let it go.
2007-11-13 03:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice? Steer clear. Entirely too weird if you ask me. Besides...the guy is a bouncer in a bar and he wants you to come to the watering hole he works in to 'get to know you better'? How bloody romantic.
Hey...maybe he's going to thump some poor drunk up in your presence to show you what a man he is.
Maintain your dignity. You haven't comprimised it before. Leave this Neanderthal and choose someone who'd be worthy of your company. And preferably not at a bar where you can watch him intimidate patrons.
2007-11-13 07:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep well at arms length - he is bad news. He sounds to be a right prat, so change course, and have nothing to do with him. I'm an old, old, man, and life has thrown up some bizarre personalities, but we are not all bad. But get rid of that one.
2007-11-13 03:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by ALAN B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men eh? Who'd be one. Sounds like he wanted a bit of the other and now you've said no he's finding someone else who's up for it. If that's not what you want, then look elsewhere, there are better men out in the world. And good for you saying no!
2007-11-13 03:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he has got other things going on and is only bothering to get in contact when it suits him.. Is right i think, to find someone else now babe.. Not nice stereo typing someones job, but its a job where its easy to find a different lady every other night if you have the gift..
2007-11-13 04:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by googoo!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a bit of a bit of a control freak, saying that though, the fact you're sticking to your guns means he might end up appreciating that.
Good luck.
2007-11-13 03:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing games with your feelings, you are right to be cautious, go with your gut feelings. He sounds unreliable and might be doing the same to others, just be care full it sounds to me like he is only after you for what he can get.
2007-11-13 05:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's play find the attached male. Found one, I win!
He's a bouncer of course he's playing you
2007-11-13 03:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want a date, he wants to jump in the sack. Lose him.
2007-11-13 03:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by DragonLady2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping his options open
you're not the only girl in his little black book
2007-11-13 03:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋