I have a strong feeling that my boyfriend of 8 months has been playing me.. However, I can't prove it because he's such a good liar and he's really good at covering up everything.. he lies to everyone about little stuff that doesnt even matter (compulsive liar).. He got a new job, but its kind of far away.. i dont know which girl he's cheating on me with but i think its either of them below:
1. his sister's bestfriend (who is still in high school.. he's 20 and the bestfriend is 15/16) *this is who i really think he's cheating on me with*
2. this girl.. a "friend" from church who's "friendship" he has been hiding from me..
3. his ex (he said she cheated on him), whom i happen to know txtd him at like 3 in the morning.. and he ended up calling her and they talk for like 3 hours..
4. this girl from work that he eats lunch with.. he claims they are just friends
I have absolutely no idea how to prove it, to catch him, before i break up with him.. any ideas???
2007-11-13 02:47:39 · 35 answers · asked by aloha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even if he's not cheating, you have serious trust issues. Leave him because this relationship is going nowhere
2007-11-13 02:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by mark 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it all depends on how u want to deal with this but if u can take i would just sit back and wait because if one thing i've learned bout cheaters none of them r that good he'll **** up some where down the line u sit back and wait because all good things exspecially all bad good things must come to an end he'll be caught out what u should do to be good at his game is treat him really good make him love u 2 death be the bomb girlfriend be his every fantasy because even though ur being perfect once a cheater always a cheater and he will get caught and when he does u play the why would u do that game i do every thing for u and when u leave him he's going to feel sooooooo ******* dumb and be sooooooo ,mad at himself 4 loosing u that he's going to be the idiot in the end and u don't have to feel bad at all because u know that u did every thing to make it work it's in a way , a way to cover all ur tracks because of course after u treat him like gold and find out 4 sure that he was xheating all this time u don't have to feel bad like i said u did every thing that u were supposed to he's the ****** up one then also when u find out who the girl is if they decide to be together still after he's caught becaome friend swith her and tell her **** bout himbeing a scumb bagh u wouldn't be lying think of the phrase keep ur friends close but keep ur enemies closer
2007-11-13 02:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by ANOTHER CRAZEY CHICK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to know if he is cheating is to follow your gut instinct. Which you have. If he is running to the shower as soon as he gets home. OR stop talking on the phone when you enter the room. Or find numbers when you do his laundry than it really proves it. However, it seems that the trust is already gone from the relationship, the best advice I can give you is move on you need something that is stable and someone that is trusting, it seems that he is not any of these things. You deserve much better.
2007-11-13 02:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nadia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been married 12 years and a husband who cheated on me...I just want to tell you that you need to be very very sure that you are prepared for whatever you may find out if you are going to pursue trying to "catch" him. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut feeling and if you "know" in your heart that he's cheating then just end it with him....believe me, I wish I had spared myself all the details!!!
You know for a fact that he's been texting and talking to his ex at odd hours and for lengthy time periods...that might be enough for some people. If he's hiding things this is not a healthy relationship whether sexual relations are involved or not!
If you really want to know about the girl at work...take the time off and drive down to where he works before he goes to lunch...borrow a friends car if you have to ..park down the road and watch to see where they go and how they act to each other.
enter his name and or email on myspace to see if he has an account. If you know his passwords you can check his email and myspace accounts...if you know his email password and he does have a myspace account, you can have the myspace password sent to his email and then check his myspace account.
But again, I warn you....please be sure you are emotionally prepared for whatever you find and consider whether or not you can live with the guilt if you find nothing!
2007-11-13 02:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about proving it, you'll just drive yourself crazy trying to catch him. Go ahead and break up with him, you clearly do not trust him to be around any of these other women so even if he isn't cheating the trust built in the relationship is gone. Cut him lose now while you suspicious and let him go for good. it sounds like it's time to just move on and find someone you can trust.
2007-11-13 02:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
umm, ok you are a little wacked to be staying with this guy..
he is a compulsive liar and your still dealing with him,, c'mon now, no one in there right mind would stay in a relationship and deal with someone like that !
regardless of wether he is cheating or not , doesnt realy matter here
the facts are :
he is a compulsive liar
and you dont trust him
if you trusted him you wouldnt be worried and thinking that he is cheating
if you dont trust the guy, then there is no relationship to begin with
it takes trust and communication to make a relationship work
so just dump him and move on with your life and dont worry about who he is cheating with if anybody
2007-11-13 02:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU KNOW IF HE'S CHEATING OR NOT, COME ON,. WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE IF YOU KNOW WITH WHOM, WHY ? YOU WANT TO CONFRONT HER FOR MESSING WITH YOUR MAN?, IT TAKES TWO !! YOU HAVE ALREADY WASTED TOO MUCH TIME ON THIS, MOVE ON AND GET THE HAPPINESS YOU DESERVE !! YOU CAN'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH OUT TRUST, YOU JUST CAN'T. SO RIGHT NOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS IN TROUBLE. YOU DESERVE A MAN THAT RESPECTS YOU AND WOULD NEVER CAUSE YOU TO LOOSE YOUR SANITY OVER HIS ACTIONS, SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST NOT TO SLEEP AROUND ON YOU!! TAKE TIME AND GET YOUR SELF ESTEEM IN CHECK, CAUSE IF IT WERE YOU WOULDN'T STAND FOR ANY THING LESS THAN TOTAL LOVE AND RESPECT FROM A MATE. YOU'LL BE IN MY PRAYERS. HOLD YOUR HEAD UP, AND GO LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE. BE HAPPY THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WAITING TO LOVE YOU JUST AS YOU ARE. GOOD LUCK !!
2007-11-13 03:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by gernan20876 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing- you don't have to prove anything. That whole type of thinking is a trap. A woman knows when her man is cheating. What do you have to do catch him having sex with someone? Just move on.
2007-11-13 02:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy in DC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have so many possible targets, whos to say he isn't hooking up with all of them? Why stay with a compulsive liar. Just leave him to it. If you stay with him, you will end up regretting it once he brings home a wonderful STD that a shot of bleach won't cure. Stop making yourself miserable and leave his cheating, lying self alone.
2007-11-13 02:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to "catch him" to break up. The fact that he is a compulsive liar is reason enough! You don't need to be in a relationship with someone you can't trust or believe! It will destroy you!
2007-11-13 02:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're psycho for starters. If I had that many people I thought my SO was potentially cheating on me with, I would leave. Regardless of whether I am right or wrong, there's no trust in this relationship so its a bad one. Leave now.
2007-11-13 02:50:29 · answer #11 · answered by Phil M 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋