Met a guy 3 wks ago. Great email & phone vibe. Had first date 11 days ago. So fun! Met for drinks after work. That led to dinner then dessert at another restaurant. Easy conversation, lots of flirting, laughing & fun. The evening ended the next morning waking up late at his place. Great chemistry. No awkwardness, good conversation next morning. 8 days ago, I sent friendly email just saying hello. He responded quickly, & we bantered back & forth through Tuesday, during which we talked about our first date & he made references to a "next time". Then no contact for 3 days. On Friday I invited him to join me for a movie on Sunday afternoon. He responded quickly thanking me for the invite, that sounds like fun, I'll call on Saturday if I can make it, I've had the flu since Tues. He never called. So other than responding to my efforts to reach out, he hasn't gotten in touch with me. It seems he's not interested in a 2nd date. Do you agree? If so, what went wrong?
2007-11-13 02:39:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like he got what he wanted and is slowly breaking it off.
2007-11-13 02:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by Brian is weird 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any person can tell you exactly what went wrong, because no one else was there with you on the date or next to that guy the whole time.
Sounds like the stereotypical guy thing where he just got cold feet because it sounded like a relationship was forming. I am personally not like that, as are many guys out there. But plenty of guys are like that, for sure. They want to sew their seed and then move on.
Hypothetically, he could have originally wanted to have sex with you (as I'm assuming you did) and then string you along long enough for you to not think you were being used or that it wasn't a one night stand... which it, of course, was.
He might have thought more about your encounters and found something he didn't like... or a friend could have spooked him for some reason... there's literally thousands of things that it "could've" been.
Best thing to do? Just send a frank email explaining that you thought everything was going great and you're wondering what he thinks/feels.
Sometimes it's best to be blunt and up front to save yourself and your feelings from being hurt more than they possibly already are.
Good luck!
2007-11-13 10:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He isn't ready to just steamroll into the momentum that was gathered. Maybe he really is sick. I wouldn't panic. Let it go on the slow burner if it has to.
2007-11-13 10:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wait, so did you guys have sex? cuz if you did, I know the exact problem! You probably weren't good enough! Invite him to dinner at your house, then give him a little after-dinner treat... read on www.cosmopolitan.com for amazing sex positions and tips.... good luck!
2007-11-13 10:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by micrus1896 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree with answer 1-----sounds like he's politely saying thanks for a good time MAYBE we'll do it agin "ON MY TIME".
2007-11-13 10:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋