we went out for 6 months ago, we broke(6months ago) up becuase she doesnt have time for a bf, and also her parents are against her having a bf, specially if he is not white, wierd things happens after we broke up, we got into fights, arguments, we got closer but then we were far apart, i notice she had feelings for me, she knows i do too, i asked her to get back with me like 2 times, she said no coz of the same reasons, laskweek we hang out,coz iheardher saying she does love me so i went 2c her, to get closer to her, maybe kiss her a few times let her know that im still feeling her, but everytime i tried she pulled away, i was worry, coz it looked like she just had no feelings for me, and i asked her wat was wrong but she say nothin just that it was akward, i told her that she is playing with my feelings but she say no, she said she loves me, but after we had that conversation,she doesnt wants talk much, she said she has a lot on her head,i want 2 go c her to talk, wat can i say2 her?
2007-11-13 02:30:01 · 26 answers · asked by soccer dream 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is 17 im 18...
i love her but... i actually want to talk to her to tell her that i want to keep things as friends and tell her what she really wants from us.. i mean i love her, she is my first love and its hard to let it go...
2007-11-13 02:46:50 · update #1
Let her go man, Let the poor girl go!
2007-11-13 02:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she likes you as well but still in the process of getting good vibes with how she'll handle such a complicated situation wherein her parents are against you. She's got something going on on her head now so give her some time to think about it but never fail to send her text messages and letting her know that whatever happens you will be there as a friend and will never lose your interest to her should time comes that she'll decide she's ready to take youback and go against her parent's will.
Her actions shows she's still into you--i.e. she says she still loves you,still communicates with you and even meet you but it doesn't mean she's ready enough for the relationship so don't aggravate the situation by kissing her. Go see her again and tell her you can stay as a good friend and will wait untilshe gets to have her decisions. -good luck
2007-11-13 02:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Leila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend went through a similar situation. 10 years later they are still playing the same game, even though they have/had other partners. This could turn out like a cat and mouse game. Some women do like the attention from ex's even though they have no intention of getting back together. You should stop calling and try to move on. If it's meant to be, something in the future will happen... in the here and now, it's over.
2007-11-13 02:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Charles M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up because of her parents, believe me "blood runs thicker than water" and depending on your ages if you are in your teens she will tend to listen to her parents as not to upset them. If you are in your 20's then she is a big girl now & really should be able to make her own decisions (but not always especially if she is close to her parents) If she really loves you and you really love her then give her SPACE to figure out what is going on in her head. Let her know exactly how you feel in your heart and that you are here for her if she needs you, but DO NOT push the relationship thing. If it is meant to be then it will be. But pushing her will only end up pushing her away. Listen to her, do not advise her on anything unless she asks, comfort her with a hug. Be a "true" friend. You may get to know things about her you didn't know and if it is to be your support through this will only make a future relationship much stronger.
Good Luck
2007-11-13 02:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better at least get a fwb situation so you can back off from this girl. I have a feeling she just cant have a relationship with you right now. Blame it on bad timing and find something to occupy your time while you either wait or something to comfort you while you distance yourself. You just cant have some things...it dosent mean that you wont get what you need. Try to change your perspective. Adapt to the change. You will be allright.
2007-11-13 02:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds young like under 18 (maybe you both are) that she is listening to her parents. Maybe she does have a lot of things going on in her life to have a boyfriend or maybe it is what her parents are saying too. It is hard to do but I would just give it time because I think you said all that you can say. She has to decide what she wants to do and who to listen to her heart or her parents.
2007-11-13 02:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by DragonLady2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when someone gives off mixed signals like that, your safest bet is to assume that when she really doesnt have feelings for you. From my own experience we tend to hang on when we dont want to suffer but fooling yourself doesnt help you out in the long run. I wouldnt waste time talking to her, the fact that she doesnt say much should raise red flags with you. Either way, good luck.
2007-11-13 02:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by warcry80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi.tell her you want and need to know where you stand with her,if she doesnt want you then she should be decent and say so she is being unfair to you keeping you dangling like she is,say you have to know if you have a future together if not then you will have to just say goodbye and move on with your life.If she truly loves you then she will stay with you whatever her family say,anyway if you make her happy surely your colour should not be a problem,her parents must want their daughter to be happy.i hope this helps and you work things out soon .
2007-11-13 02:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by her with the mad ginger hair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she's too young for a relationship. You can wait until she feels a little freer from her parents or you can find someone else. Continuing to pursue her is just going to make you bang your head against a wall.
2007-11-13 02:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have love for her , explaining that she cant continue to push you away. Its either she wants to be with you or not. Let her know that you are the supposed to be the one she comes to when everything else around her is goin wrong . Let her know that your in the dark and you need her to enlighten you! You need to know where you stand
2007-11-13 02:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Safi n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move and leave her alone that doesnt make any sence what so ever to even try after she blowed u off 2times and u need a girl who isnt gonna play games
2007-11-13 02:41:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋