Ok, If you had a guy that you had been with for ages and he was great! But you had just bought a house together and he never really helped around the house, Stopped being affectionate or intimate, wasn’t really showing any interest, got all arsey all the time, wont talk, had been lying constantly before you had a big argument over it, had been going out most nights and coming back around 02:30 what would you do? He has recently found a new ‘female’ friend which he has been giving lifts home to, texting, speaking online with, had thought about being with her instead of you me cuz I'm a little ‘off’ cuz of everything, said he COULD fancy her but doesn’t. He still speaks to her and stuff but has stopped giving her lifts, he stays in now and goes round his friends house around twice a week, I left him a while back because I told him how I felt and he did nothing, and he begged me to come back so I did, But he is still being ‘off’ with me but said he still wants to marry me ,what can I do?
2007-11-13 02:19:02 · 6 answers · asked by x_miss_cat_87_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough one. Don't marry him until you are 100% of his feelings, and of yours. You don't want to be stuck in a marriage on top of being stuck in this house too!
You guys need some time to prove that this is what you both want. Each other. and each other has to be the most important part of your lives. It's really hard to be in a relationship, never mind when it's strained!! You can get out of the house easy enough, and part ways if this isn't the best relationship for him.
You deserve someone that is head over heels about you and wants to spend most of his time with you. not someone that he's texting....
Just wait if you have kids! sheesh!!!
2007-11-13 02:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by wfhlembo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've had a rough time girl... I think you should ask yourself if you really really love him and if you are willing to accept him in spite of everything, or ask yourself what its gonna be few years from now, would i be willing to take a risk in this type of relationship? Would I be happy? If you are happy and you can do anything for that relationship and you think that there is still hope... then maybe you should be with the guy. But if your not happy and a few years from now you'll think you'll get bored and tired, then I think you should find the right man for you who'll love you more than you love yourself.
2007-11-13 10:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by prettyinpink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m glad you find out about this before you get marry to him.
please consider carefully about whether marrying him is right decision since he can do that to you even you guys going to get marry soon what else if already marry.
first of all ,you must tell him to stop being close with her.try tell him nicely but if he refuse to listen,i think you should know what to do.
2007-11-13 10:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having these problems before marriage, it will only get worse as time goes on unless you and him get them resolved real soon. Just keep in mind there are other men out there better than him.
2007-11-13 10:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - DON'T HAVE A KID WITH THIS LOSER, OR YOU'LL HAVE HIM IN YOUR LIFE FOREVER
second - don't marry this loser.
third - get rid of him, sell the house, take the loss if you have to, and move on. He'll be nothing but grief and problems forever.
2007-11-13 10:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want to marry you!
2007-11-13 10:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋