If you don't cry at your paren't funeral, does that mean you are evil?

Question

I love my parents, but sometimes I worry what if I don't cry what does that mean? I'm very weird, I don't cry much nor have feelings much....anyone else worry about this or feel this way?

Answer 1

My father died in 1973. I have not yet shed one tear over his death. I have wondered at times if there was something wrong with me, but I don't dwell on it or worry about it. I think different people deal with grief and sorrow in different ways.

Answer 2

Everyone is different. I often used to think I wouldn't cry at my parents funeral because I never cried at others that I had been to. But when my father died I couldn't stop crying. You won't know how you will react until you're in the situation.

Don't spend a lot of time worrying about things that haven't happened. Be yourself. If a parent dies and you don't cry there could be any number of reasons for it. It doesn't mean you're evil. It may mean that you're at peace with the fact that your loved one is in a happier place. There is no formula for how you are supposed to act at a funeral. Let it flow and be what it is.

In the meantime, enjoy your parents while they're still here. Don't try to speed up their departure by worrying about how you'll react at their funeral. Love them and appreciate them while you still have them. Think happy and positive thoughts rather than worrying about whether or not you'll cry.

Answer 3

We all deal with our emotions different. Some are comfortable displaying their emotions easily then others. I am one that prefers to keep it to myself. It was heartbreaking when I lost my father in 2005. The only time anyone has seen actual tears flowing down from my face was at the hospital, during the last minutes of his life. I'm usually not comfortable displaying that emotion towards anyone not even my family, but it's something I couldn't hold back even if I tried. But I try not to make it so obvious because for me I feel it to be a sign of weakness even though at the time I was.

The funeral was different. More people, I was definitely very sadden by my loss, but was able to held back tears. I waited until I was alone to release all my emotions because that way I can cry as much as I want without anyone interfering with my emotions. I don't need to hear "are you okay?" I know I am not and I need time alone to deal with the loss. I understand it's done out of sympathy but I prefer not to hear those words from others because it only makes the situation worse not better.

Answer 4

everyone expresses grief in a different way. crying does not mean you are not grieving. If you want to cry about something then feel free, if you don't feel like crying then that does NOT mean your evil! = )
You say you don't have feelings much.... but you do, (or you wouldn't even be thinking out this!) everyone is different. no big deal. Just don't repress your feelings or bottle everything up.

Answer 5

No it doesn't. Everyone deals with death in different way. You do have feelings but the mechanism that turns it on and off might be dragging just a little, I have found that with age, it doesn't take much in the way of death or tragedy to make me cry, as with everything, everything in due time. You are not evil. God Bless.

Answer 6

Sometimes people don't cry because they're really in shock at the time of the funeral. I didn't cry at my Mom's funeral. I didn't cry until much later. While I was watching an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, believe it or not. It was the show where Buffy's Mother died.

Answer 7

Not crying doesnt mean your evil. Most people express sadness with crying, and just because you dont, doesnt mean that its bad. You just have another way of expressing your feelings. Look at it this way, no one can ever get on you for being a cry baby! haha. Keep your head up. Good luck!

Answer 8

if u don't cry at your parents funeral does not mean u r weird. some people have their own way of grieving and your is just different. there is nothing wrong with doing things different from the norm as long as it is not to far to the left side.

Answer 9

Its okay alot of people are that way it doesnt mean you are evil, you feel it inside...Just dont know how to let it out. You could learn to let things out more, read sad stories often, maybe you will shed a tear or two!

Answer 10

Everyone deals with grief differently
I still harbor feelings against my EX because he didn't come to our baby daughters funeral. I dont feel bad because he didnt show emotions. I feel bad because he didnt show UP!!! or show ME any respect.