Should she stay single or be reconciled to her husband? or is she free to choose again?
2007-11-13 01:40:51 · 13 answers · asked by whenyou'restrange... 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For clarification, I have been separated from my husband for more than 2 and a half years, having to go into a womans refuge in the interim period.
2007-11-13 01:50:38 · update #1
how can she be single and have a husband?
2007-11-13 01:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by jesussaves 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I might not be the best Person to ask , since I have had 3 Marriages. But you can check out these verses:
1 Corinthians 7:39
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.
See also Matthew 19:3-12 , it says adultery is the only valid reason to divorce.
Deuteronomy says a lot about divorce Chapter 22
2007-11-13 10:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by londonpeter2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are obviously wanting to know the christian viewpoint,so well meaning people providing a secular view will be of little help.
The bibles view is that fornication on the the part of one or other is the only scriptural grounds for a divorce. One may feel that they have valid reasons for separating from an abusive or severely neglectful partner, but whilst this is understandable and reasonable,these are not grounds for a scriptural divorce.
If you have been separated for such a long time it is likely that fornication has taken place and therefore scriptural grounds could be established.
This is not to say that anyone should put up with abuse but purely that whilst it may be wise to SEPARATE it is not SCRIPTURAL to divorce without the grounds of fornication.
2007-11-13 10:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you a slave to your Husband or are you a person in your own right? Marriages are tough and need to be worked at but if the other person committs adultery or is abusive then why on earth should you have to stay with them! It seems to me that the Bible thinks of women as second class citizens who must obey their husbands. You have a right to a happy and fulfilling life!
2007-11-13 11:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by cobymox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in physical danger when you are with your husband, then certainly, you need to be kept safe from him, and if divorce will give you that, by all means, divorce him.
As to whether or not you can marry again, I cannot answer that. I believe that Marriage is a Sacrament that 'no man' can 'put assunder' because when God unites a couple, they're united for good. However, in my faith tradition, we have a system of determining whether or not a couple's union is sacramentally valid. If yours is NOT a sacramental union, then you are free to enter into one that is. If you yours IS a sacramental union, then you would remain single.
There are many different issues that would lead one of our marriage tribunals to determine that a union is not a sacramental Marriage: rushing into marriage without preparation, being coerced to marry by parental influence or financial circumstances, a civil union, one or both parties never intending to have children, one or both parties never intending to remain faithful to the vows, etc.
2007-11-13 10:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are they in the process on divorce. Because you can not be single and still have a husband. I know somewhere in the Bible it states that under situations of abandonment, abuse and cheating you can leave. But if not that it says to reconcile. Not sure of the verse. Have you tried talking with a pastor or your church leader?
2007-11-13 09:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by New Job Mayne! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Best forget about being a christian that just confuses the issue and gives no real help or guidance. Do whatever makes you happy but try to avoid harming anyone
2007-11-13 10:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the case of adultery the woman would be free to marry again as the husband has broken the marriage vow. If she was in an abusive marriage you can still leave but would not be free to marry again. Not very nice is it? Not very fair.
2007-11-13 09:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe she is free to choose again. I don't thing she should reconcile if her husband was cruel..God doesn't want you to be a punching bag. If her husband was unfaithful. she is free. If her husband left her, she is free. She shouldn't suffer for his sin.
2007-11-13 09:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by PROBLEM 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all it depends on the reason u 2 were separated in the first place. if he cheated and u caught him then spiritually u can divorce and marry again. if u just got tired of him and want someone else it is a sin.
2007-11-13 09:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by kayzarty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are living in a rfeuge strongly suggests you should be shot of him. If any idiot tells you that you can't do so without having the Bible sanction it in words of one syllable, you should be shot of them as well. Common sense comes into it - not to mention common humanity.
2007-11-13 10:29:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋