The are many reasons that I have for not trusting people in general, I have been verbal and emotional abused, as well umm... other abuse. It has been 12 years to this date that I started dating a guy who abused me very often. I was nothing more than an object to him, something he used and that was about it. I know he was dirt, and I deserved better.
End of July I started to date this other guy, we'll call him Jack. Jack is bipolar, with severe depression as well as an alcoholic. When I first meet him he seemed okay, but as time when on, and for reasons I don't want to get into we moved in together (don't say it.... I know it was too fast) Anyway, Jack was sweet as can be when he was sober. But he wasn't always sober, most the time he wasn't sober. At first I enabled him with his drinking buy being the one supplying the beer. Then he would still from the change box to get more beer. He mixed his beer and meds that he was on. Was in the ER many times,
2007-11-13 01:38:52 · 8 answers · asked by Artist Wanna Be 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
but no one was willing to help him. He was on a suicide mission, and did many things to try to kill himself, he sat on the train tracks on afternoon, I tried to pull him off, but barely got up and off the tracks before a train came. Another night he wanted to go out. I didn't. He took my car with out consent, just took the keys out of my purse. he had been drinking earlier in the evening. He took his dog and my car out and then about midnight drove the car into a house. Totalled the car, broke my heart. after he left the hospital, he was here for 3 more days and then I said get out. He was tapping all my resources. My emotions, feeling, and the pocketbook. I just was unable to do it anymore.
Now I just live in my apartment, (lost my job in August), and had to quit school because of many other factors.
I have disability for my depression and other stuff. But when it comes to talking to men. I just can't do it. I AM NOT gay or turning gay. but I just want to be
2007-11-13 01:46:05 · update #1
left alone. I can't talk to my mom, because she is two faced. The mom I know is not the one every one else sees. I have limited friends because I don't trust anymore, Too many times I have been hurt and I am sick of it.
I know the first answers you will say.... and I am already doing them, talking to a therapist and seeing a mental health doctor. But the doctor doesn't return my calls. I just hope that when I see him next he won't be on call and have to cancel the appointment, again. No I can't see another doctor because there really isn't anyone else to see.
The men in general I have found have one thing and only one thing on their mind. and I hate the "one thing" so I tell them off and stop talking to them.
if you want to know more you can email me or IM me, I might be able to talk more about it that way.
Sad ~ Lonely~ Confused
2007-11-13 01:51:54 · update #2
Sorry to make this so long..... "jack" had to move back to where he used to live for reason we won't go into, so he is not around. So as far as that is concerned. I don't have to worry about him. He doesn't contact me, which is good. I don't know what i would even say to him. I know it would be very rude and mean and hostile.
Where do I meet new friends again I have to learn to trust them too.... all the issues I have... not too many want to be my friend.
thanks for reading this novel....and your advice that is positive and supportive is most welcomed.
2007-11-13 02:29:14 · update #3
You have no self worth and are drawn to people who are just bad for you because you think that is all you deserve--and you probably want to save them and change them. You are going to have to snap out of this--get to a GOOD counselor and start changing the only person you can change--yourself.
2007-11-13 02:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar spot, and from far earlier.
It seems that you are attracting a lot of jerks. What you need to do is get out on your own again, and without 'Jack' knowing where you live. You have your own life to live and don't need to carry him too. If you think he is a danger- and from what you just wrote, he might be- contact the police about him.
Try to find another doctor: There has to be more than the one that you seem to find is unreliable. And gather a group of friends who are in the know about your situation: You need a support network of some kind.
Once you have your own home set up, you might find that it's a pretty heady feeling. That will help a lot in itself.
And don't worry about dating anyone: Despite what some males (notice I don't say men) think, you don't need to jump in bed with them to be 'a real woman'.
Don't forget, there really are good men out there. I was fortunate enough to find my husband of ten years- ten very happy years.
Good luck, Honey.
2007-11-13 02:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to someone on the phone is not a crime and that is a stupid immature thing to threaten divorce over. Does not sound like you have a marriage based on trust or willing to go the distance to keep. You have to trust that because of his love for you he would not violate that trust, and he needs to do the same for you. You never use the divorce card, once you start saying the word, you start inviting the thought of divorce into each others hearts. Marriage is not a game, it is genuine hard work. You are probably both either very young or very immature. If this little issue could rip apart your marriage, you need to seek counseling right away just to learn to think more maturely, even if not both of you, go yourself. Best of luck.
2016-04-03 22:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family Doctor's Experience:
You probably know about the doctor patient relationship. Only after months of attending the doctor, do you start feeling confortable and trusting him/her more because you know that he/she is a good doctor (also a person and also a human being). So, letting time make the decisions will allow you to make better decisions judging people. Also, take decisions after thinking twice and everything should be fine. Won't you feel happy when you have proved everyone wrong and turned your life into prosperity?
2007-11-13 02:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by $210,000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really do understand the trust issue....i too do not trust....close to the same reasons....to trust someone you have to let them into your heart and your life....and it's never easy to do that once you have lost trust in the world. i would suggest that you seek some sort of hotline or co uncling to help with the issue(s) that you are facing. you shouldn't have to feel alone....sometimes joining a support group helps as well. you will be fine and you will get thru this...as for that guy you were with, forget about him...try being single for a bit. don't rush into anything. sometimes one needs to take time for herself and figure things out.....go out with friends. trust me...i ended up moving away from my husband just to clear my head....and when i figured things out, I was lucky enough for him to still want me. you will get thru this...I promise.
2007-11-13 02:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of the saddest 'asks' ive seen-some people have the knack of going out with the wrong people. my 2 sisters are the same but ive been married for 30 years.
You say you derserve better ? then look for that better person who will look after you.
Really hope for better for you xxxx
2007-11-13 02:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...surround yourself with positive well minded people my friend....what else really?
2007-11-13 01:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT YOUR OWN DAMN FAULT FOR PUTTING YOURSELF IN THAT POSITION. USE SOME COMMON SENSE.
2007-11-13 01:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋