THIS WAS MY ORIGINAL QUESTION:
Men.......lads night out & jealous girlfiend??
Just wondering....
Men how often do you go out with your mates drinking? ...........and why do you feel the need to see them so much......do you have lads nights as you want to be able to get away from ur girl or u just wana see your mates??
Does your girlfriend get mad/jealous? If she does how does it make you feel??
and if she doesnt does that mean you feel you can get away with cheating or you really just wana see your mates??
Pls inpart from experiences on me as i need the advice/perspective.......
LADIES:
Just wondering your perspectives?
How often do ur men go out? do you mind? do you feel like ur planning around them or they'd rather see their mates??
AGAIN ADVICE NEEDED xx
2007-11-13 01:27:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i go out more than my husband with my friends. i think girls night out is VERY important. the more space you give eachother, the stronger the relationship as long as you are in a trusting relationship. sounds like you arent in one...
2007-11-13 01:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got a couple of experiences for you.
The last guy I was with, I was with for 14 years. His pals always came first. I felt like I had to be available to him 24-7 he went nuts when I went out with my girlfriends, and I found out that I couldn't trust him when there was a naked woman in his closet. Yep...live and in the flesh. Ugly too. That's the nutshell version. So, I dumped him after I couldn't take the wee hour of the morning panic of where he was anymore. He obviously didn't want to be with me, so why should I stick around? Loser...he can spend all of the time he wants with his "boys" now.
Fast forward to current situation: 6 months after leaving loser boy...I was introduced to this guy by friends through a set-up blind date...that I didn't want to go on, but I figured why not? At least it's a new friend. 3 months after that date we were engaged, and a year later, we're married. He's my drinking buddy and I'm his, we love hanging out together doing whatever, and we just have his friends and my friends bring their significant others and make it one big party. He doesn't want to go out with the boys alone, and I have no use for a girl's night....we just end up wishing the other was there.
My point is this....if it bothers you, you and your mate are moving in two different directions, have different priorities, go find a man that wants to be with you. There are plenty of them out there that have "been there, done that" with the party scene and are ready to have something different. Let someone else raise your current beau to adulthood.
2007-11-13 09:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by Bridey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone has a b/f or g/f it does not mean their life is over!! My husband is a chef so he does not get many free nights, he goes out with his brother and friends maybe once or twice a month as he simply does not have the free time. I do not mind, I do not get jealous, he is entitled to spend time with his friends. I trust him so there is no jealousy. If he wants to go out then I please myself, I might go out as well or stay home if there is something good on TV. Trying to possess anyone will drive them further away.
2007-11-13 09:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband occasionally has outings with his buddies. Since my hubby doesn't drink, it isn't to bars. Often it's to restaurants, sporting events, on a motorcycle ride, or to climb a mountain. My hubby's male friends provide him with a type of companionship that I can't.
If your guy is with you the majority of the time (as mine is) you should be happy that he had friends to hang with (and that you do too - or at least have some nice alone time). No one person can be it "ALL" for another - friends help balance out a person's life. That being said, one's significant other should be at the TOP of the list.
2007-11-13 09:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, my man do go out a lot with the fellows, but I do not mine because I also go out my my girls, and we are so grown up and have been together so long that we have gone pass that jealous thing and we as a couple knows the dos and donts of our relationship my man and I never really go out together and we are ok with it we figure like this how can we relax and enjoy ourselves by tagging alone behind one another at every moment I love and trust and he also love and trust me and we have not yet cheated on one another and we don't plan on it we are grown *** people and we do not need to play that jealious **** that is for those children and those want to be grown up.
2007-11-13 09:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I encourage my boyfriend to go out and do things on his own or with friends. In any relationship, it is important to maintain a level of individuality. It keeps both partners happy and we are less likely to feel we have lost ourselves in the relationship.
I never feel as though he is picking his friends over me, nor will I compete for attention. If you're doing the right thing by your partner, there's no need to.
2007-11-13 09:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to go out all the time when i first got married, then she got jealous, and ect. accusing us of all sorts of BS. The more drama she made about it, the more id go out. BUt eventually I stopped going out cause I loved her.. Then I LOST my friends for a long time.. eventually got divorced... now my friends, dont seem to want to hang out with me anymore, like I sold them out for someone they "TOLD ME" was a sociopath.
But when your under the spell of a sociopath you dont believe it, they have you around there finger, and you wont listen to even your best friends who have never done you wrong in the past, and ya grew up together.
I think the best thing, is for everyone to get along, if they can, and try to be nice, and go out together.
If I was going to a strip club, yeah, she would have the right to be pissed, but the local pub?
I mean cmon,...
Everyone can go there and theres no nakedness..
2007-11-13 09:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by red_samurai_dragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok it is natrual for us women to wonder and suspect things. U have to follow ur gut. I have caught my husband lying so many times by following my gut feeling. He has never cheated on me physically but he has emotionally. Just as bad I know. He doesn't go out very often because he knows that if he goes out then I get to go out and he doesn't like that. I don't mind if I know where he is going.
Just listen to ur inner self it is always right. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-11-13 09:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by de de 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband plays softball with his friends 2 nights a week and the occasional saturday tournaments. I'm welcome to go watch if I want to, and he usually drinks as much as he wants and goes out with them after the game. He comes home by midnight and it's no big deal.
2007-11-13 09:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man never plans on a night out with the guys. If he plans to see his friends, he always takes me along.
2007-11-13 09:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋