I have two sister in laws and the three of us threw our cousin a baby shower. Our mother in law gave us $100 to split up between us. I let the other two girls just pocket it since they spent more and I hardly spent anything as I was only in charge of tableware. Well, one of my sister in laws is pregnant so my other sister in law and I threw her a party. Again our mother in law gave us $100 to split. Though this time my sister in law did not mention the $100 nor did she ask about receipts as she did the last shower. So I asked her how we were going to split up the cost of the shower. She gives me her list and costs of $185! What on earth did she buy for that much money is beyond me! I gave her my costs of $66.65. She said okay let's just call it even. Without saying anything about the $100. So since she overspent on who knows what, I don't get any of the money. I bought the stuff I bought thinking I would get reimbursed with some of the $100. What should I do?
2007-11-13 01:22:27 · 4 answers · asked by Loves Dogs 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The mom has three sons and us three girls are married to them. So all three of us are not really related. The last shower she didn't nearly spend that much. Plus she isn't even telling me about the money. She thinks I'm this dumb girl who can't do anything.
2007-11-13 01:35:16 · update #1
I don't know what you can do to get reimbursed fairly for this shower w/o causing friction with the in-laws. Just learn your lesson and don't go in with them again on a shower next time under the same arrangements. Everybody has different ideas about how much is too much to spend on a shower, and there is probably no way you can convince her that she overspent or that she is in the wrong.
If you do end up planning another shower in the future, you should try to get th $100 to pocket & distribute yourself. Maybe if you have a really good relationship with M-I-L you can explain that you came out on the short end last time? Or at least try to have a planning session to budget costs for the shower next time. But you are in a precarious position if they are family and you are just an in-law, so you have to be careful about rocking the boat!
2007-11-13 01:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have figured out how the money would be split before the party stuff was bought. A limit should have also been set, then no one feels like anyone else was outdone by the other. This is family and you may just have to take one for the team with this one!
2007-11-13 09:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by I hang with the BIG DOGS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a bug in your mother-in-law's ear about it.
2007-11-13 09:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being so petty. These are your sisters, love them.
2007-11-13 09:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋