How do you get over someone?

Answer 1

Now...why did you give up?

C'mon...we need info. Did you talk to her?

Answer 2

It depends entirely upon how emotionally invested you were in the relationship.

If you were minimally invested, dating others usually works.

But if you were in it with both feet, totally there, completely devoted to that other person, well ... it can take years.

I was in a relationship like that about 10 years ago; when he left, I thought I would die. He was my life and I just didn't believe I could go on without him. But I did, with the help of friends who nurtured me while I was healing -- which actually took several years.

The answer doesn't lie in alcohol, drugs, promiscuity or anything else; these are all externals that don't really help. The answer actually lies within you. After the days pass and you realize you didn't, in fact, die for lack of having this person, you begin to heal. When you can look back on the relationship and feel greatful for the experience, but know in your heart that it's over and you'd never go back to it, then you're truly "over" that person and are ready to look again. Only time and honest introspection can get you there.

Answer 3

I think the best ways to get over someone is to get busy. If you have become a little stagnant, get yourself to the local college or even high school and take a class in something fun, educational or that appeals to you on some level. Nothing makes you less interested in what SOMEONE is doing if you are meeting NEW people doing something else. Give yourself to a local charity, serve some meals to the homeless, handing out coats to the less fortunate and under served in your community. Nothing makes you think less of self than giving to others in need. If you have your hair a certain way, cause so and so liked it that way, go get a new do/style. Call your friends you have been passing over in lieu of spending time with the X. Rekindle those relationships and get together for some updating, yours and theirs! Improve yourself in some way. Nothing is more pathetic than seeing your X in their fuzzy slippers and clothes they've slept in for the past week. Nothing is more annoying than you being seen with an upgraded new "friend" on your arm, a new do and some self confidence from taking a class, meeting new people, and feeling good about yourself. Whatever you do, don't jump into a NEW RELATIONSHIP, but don't hesitate to get out there and date a little, have coffee with new interesting people and be seen enjoying your life. I think sitting around wallowing in your own misery is the LAST thing you should do. Moving on and improving yourself is ALWAYS a good idea, so get yourself away from the house and out and about! Don't sit waiting for the phone to ring or someone to knock on your door, or wondering what the X is doing, seeing or thinking! Who cares, you're busy and have to hurry cause your meeting friends for dinner at 7. Now go get a shower and go outside and play!

Answer 4

It takes time.

I'm sorry, I guess it did not work out for you. I wish I had some magic words that would mend your heart but I don't.

I think the only way to get through life is just one step at a time. No matter what has been thrown at me I have faced it and come out of it still standing. Crying, yes, but still standing.

Honestly, I don't think men feel very much, if you do, you don't feel it for very long. Maybe you are different.

Answer 5

It depends on the relationship at hand.

If its a nasty one . I don't think it would be hard to get over but may take a while to recover the effects of the relationship.

If its one that where you both just grow apart but were together most of your life. It will take good old father time.

All in all ........Time heals the broken heart.

Answer 6

You mean romantically?
I suppose you truly don't if it is real and true.
I think that to get on with your life you have to forgive yourself and the other person, and just keep breathing in and breathing out until life gets easier.
If I lost a certain person from my life right now, the pain would be unbearable, I would live but never forget.

Answer 7

Well, if you wanted to get over someone because that someone already had a fiance or husband, you completely avoid that someone. It means not returning messages, phonecalls, etc. If you're talking about yahoo, maybe it means abandoning yahoo and letting time work its magic.

Answer 8

Many folks will "blow smoke" and give you long detailed "Breakup stories" the truth of the matter is you must forgive the other person and yourself. Count your blessings for this experience, wish them well in the future "release all that pain/ hurt" and move forward to find the person that is right for you.

We learn these lessons, ask older experienced people, they will seem kinda " harsh" or " not take it so serious" never you mind that, since in 10 years this is an ancient memory of your own. Listen to their info. and make it yours.

I receive relationship questions all the time (all ages) and love to sit, cry, listen and help people heal to make their "peace" and "release" and move on to the next healthy relationship. We are here to help you.

In a short period of time, you will be able to "be around" this other person with little emotional issues of your own.

The only one you can "help" is you. Best wishes.

Answer 9

Wait, so now you are trying to get over her?!?!? I thought we all told you to go for it!

Answer 10

work your *** off and be out in the market again and wait for the right one (WAIT, not CHASE).. thats only the 3-step most effective program i could think of.

Answer 11

I'd put in my .02 cents worth but Edith has it just right!