How much times are you suppose to forgive someone if some one does something bad to you and apologizes and you forgive them if they do it a second time are you still suppose to forgive them what about after that ?
2007-11-13 00:47:26 · 36 answers · asked by battla4life p 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well according to the Bible you should forgive your loved ones just as God forgives us! That means always! But my Mother -in-law used to say "Do me once shame on you, Do me twice shame on me, and their is NO third time." I say it depends on who and what it is! I am a very forgiving person, but their are some horrible things that are very hard to forgive!
2007-11-13 00:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by babiesmama212 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think forgiveness and letting go of past wrongs is essential to you own well being and happiness in life. So it is not such an act of sacrifice as might first seem. This is separate though from the idea that you must continue to give the person the opportunity to hurt you. If this person hurts you or betrays your trust repeatedly then it is best for both of you to remove yourself from their life or not put yourself in a place where they can do it again. For them because it ultimately teaches them they can't behave in such a manner and get away with it and for obvious reasons for yourself. This is not the same as not forgiving them. When you might decide to not give them more chances to hurt you depends on you, the relationship, and how bad or how much what they are doing hurts you.
2007-11-13 00:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Zen Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As often as they sin against you. Jesus was exasperated with the disiple who asked that. He was saying if they sin 77 times then forgive 77 times. It doen';t mean you cut them of at 78. Jesus couldnt' figure out why the disciple couldnt' get it. It's FORGIVENESS! It's about LOVE! not being angry with someone. It's about putting your relationship ahead of something they did. true forgiveness means you figure out who you are angry at, you cancel the debt and move on.
As for the person who sinned against you they need to truly repent and that means SERIOUSLY never do it again. true repentance is not "oh, well I'll try" and then they go and do it next week or next year. It's they never do it again.
Forgiveness is about putting that other person first. Making your relationship with GOd and that other person above your own feelings. It's a rough road to hoe but the straight and narrow always is. If the oppertunity for conflict resolution arises yes, find a way to work it out.
2007-11-13 00:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by KZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I should forgive everytime they apologize, and most time I can forgive, but when the other person(people) is(are) Christian(s), I can't.
2007-11-13 01:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your supposed to forgive people every time they ask. i know that it can be hard sometimes, and it would take a lot of prayer for strength and guidance. i'm kind of going through this right now with a few people in my life. i do feel that sometimes you need to learn your lesson, that no matter how many times you forgive them, they are going to do it again, and in that case, i have learned to forgive them, but then to stay away from them, i don't hold a grudge, and i'm nice when i see them, but i'm happier not spending time around them, but they are still forgiven, just out of common sense, this person is dragging you down and hurting you and causing you to maybe even sin, then cut ties with them, just don't hate them. good luck with your personal forgivings, i know that through god, you will come to the right decision for your life, god bless.
2007-11-13 01:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man beats his wife or child for years. A brother lies and steals from family right into adulthood.
Some people cause harm to others, they do not want to learn.
Whether you forgive them or not is personal choice. Family or work colleauges. Shut them out if they do you continuous harm and will not learn from their mistakes.
Been through this a lot, and learned denying access is sometimes the right choice. Forgiveness is impossible for me when a serious offence continues.
2007-11-13 01:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by instantdegrees_scam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness can be Eternal, BUT, forgiveness does not mean that you have to remain in a situation and endure the same actions "Eternally".
There are two ways to commit suicide.
One is to kill yourself.
The other, in some instances, is to live in a life threatening environment until someone else to kills you.
2007-11-13 00:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man must always instill forgiveness in their hearts, so that means you should always be ready to forgive.
Forgiving somebody , means accepting and understanding the other persons weakness, its quiet difficult , but in doing this , you are capable of loving yourself too.
2007-11-13 00:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by nattienes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this BUT The Bible tells us we are to forgive a person A DAY 70x70. How many times is that A DAY 4900. I know it's hard especially for me b/c as a human we don't want to forgive people that many times for the same thing but that's what we are supposed to do.
2007-11-13 00:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by madeam3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
True forgiveness is unconditional.
If the perpetrator is truly repentant, forgiveness is in order--even if they did the same thing 20 times before.
Count on your forgiveness, and God's help, to prevent a relapse.
2007-11-13 00:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jesse R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋