My boyfriend and I are getting married. We have been together for 6 years. We are not going to have a wedding, just going to our local court house. But we are having a big reception with family and friends. We do not want to register for anything because we do not need anything. Instead we want a money tree or money boot. Some people have said we were wrong for that. But we feel we shouldnt have to register somewhere just to make other people happy when this is our day. Plus the fact we have been together for 6 years and have everything we need. We are not pack rats and do not want to become pack rats. I do not think a money tree/boot is wrong and I know there has to be a tactful way to announce to the guests. Any ideas?
2007-11-13 00:38:45 · 32 answers · asked by catwoman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that! that is a good idea as a matter of fact! just let people know that it isn't necessary to donate to you two's future, but any contributions are greatly appreciated. there will be more than a few people releived too that they dont have to ponder on what to buy the two of you. good thinking!
2007-11-13 00:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by HellzBellz08 4 · 1⤊ 7⤋
Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
This question is asked quite frequently on here!
Please be considerate and give your guests a little credit!!! People are not stupid!!
Don't register if you don't want to. When your guests see that you are not registered anywhere, they will bring you a card and hopefully put some cash or a check in it. That is what people here do all the time.
Get a nice "card box" and decorate it. Some places even sell these online....some you can even get at a florist!!
http://www.theweddingoutlet.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWCATS&Category=22
But...DO NOT put out a money tree or a money boot. I have never seen that anywhere!!
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
2007-11-13 02:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I can tell you now, it may be your day, but people are going to get offended that you have made it clear you only want cash. Some people really want to give you a gift.
Are you planning on going on a honeymoon together? You can register with a travel agent so guests can give money towards your honeymoon. Or if you don't have a house yet you can register with a mortgage company and have guests make donations towards that.
Some people are just going to give you money either way, but you can't just "request" it by having a money tree.
2007-11-13 01:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Usually a money tree is pretty tacky - most people say it's only OK if it's a cultural thing (if your grandmother & mother had the custom you can honor it), and in that case, like a Filipino "money dance" they only want you to give a dollar bill because they're honoring a custom, not soliciting funds.
In your case, it's tacky. If you have everything you need, print "no gifts please" on the invitation, or select a charity you care about and ask them to make a donation in your honor.
Don't ask for money if you've already got a house full of stuff! It sounds like you are doing fine financially, just enjoy your day and if people are driven to give you a house gift anyway, enjoy their generosity.
2007-11-13 00:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by noname 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Yes it is not wedding ettiquette. Quite tacky. Let your guests give you an envelope with money or gifts cards which they will because you have been together for so long. The fact that you did not register, they will understand that money is the best gift.
2007-11-13 02:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to register for gifts. When people see that you do not have a registry, they will probably give you a monetary gift. That is what I would do anyway. Having a money tree or boot is like having a donation basket at your reception. Personally, I would not do it, but it is your party.
2007-11-13 01:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by vaya 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is not a polite way to hint that you need money. Having people pin money and envelopes to a tree at a party you are hosting is crass and tasteless.
2016-04-03 22:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong, you know you could also have a money dance, when people pay to dance with the bride. The guests will understand, and may even be thankful that they don't have to pick out a gift.
2007-11-13 07:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by RAZMATAZ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that's what you want then discretely put the word out that you will have a money tree in lieu of gifts. Never, never mention gifts in an invitation, this is considered rude because then it looks like you are expecting gifts and one should never assume that you are getting a gift. But some people will still give you gifts regardless of your wishes.
2007-11-13 00:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't do it unless it is a family tradition and people will be accepting of it..
just a warning, if you do not register then people will buy you junk that you do not need or want like collectibles and lenox frames and candles.. register for some things you WILL need in the near future even if you don't need them now.. like a set or 2 of new towels or new sheets.. if you register at target or best buy you can pick out electronics that you want or DVDs.. register for a few things at a store you really like and people who are unsure what to get you might get you a gift certificate for the store since they know you shop there.. or set up a registry for your honeymoon so that people can help pay for that.. some people just don't like to give cash and those that do will give it to you whether or not you register.. but if you pick nothing then those who love to give gifts will definitely give you things you don't want..
2007-11-13 01:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should not do this, it is a bad idea and is inappropriate for a wedding. I agree with asking people to donate to a favorite charity instead. Also, if you do not need anything, then don't ask for anything, you don't have to register, and just let people give what they want. . . . let's face it, most people will give money anyway, don't make yourself look bad or greedy by outright asking them, you are inviting your close family and friends you don't want to offend them do you?
2007-11-13 02:53:08 · answer #11 · answered by Afisha 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋