about a month and a half ago. he is in his glory. my daughter just adores him, and i have to be the responsbile parent, act strong, like this doesn't bother me, and let her think her dad is something great while i am hurting inside
2007-11-13 00:37:52 · 13 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say "husband". Are you still married? Then file for divorce and take him for all he's got. In some places adultery is still grounds for divorce. And how old is your daughter? He better not be introducing his mistress to her.
Divorce him, and start a new life without him. It can only get better for you.
2007-11-13 00:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by N L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG I have been there & I HAVE to tell u the thruth that healing takes time.But during the process "find yourself"!!!!!. Don't let his influence affect your growth! Someone will come for you & so will happiness--don't just jump into the 1st thing to heal because that will hurt longer & prohibit your growth.As women we are strong--believe that with all your heart never talk negative or down on anyone just because it didn't work out how u hoped/thought ! Love is an emotion we have no control over,it's how you use it that we can control...If he hurt you during the end process w/out ever showing that he never intended it then he will certainly reap that,but how & when is up to our higher power.When you can let go & let go gracefully through the pain you've already over come step #1 in healing.......GOOD LUCK
2007-11-13 09:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think your daughter will appreciate more living in honesty or living in lies? What do you think you deserve happiness or sadness?
You can speak with your husband and tell him how you feel about the situation, if you and him are both willing to work things out for the sake of your daughter, then have go to counseling but let him know FIRMLY that you won't accept that type of behaviour. so either he ships up or ships out.
2007-11-13 08:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by heartbroken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don`t hide him from anyone and kick him out..It`s a bad feeling I know...Just when you thought you had it right...Someone throws you a curve.. seems alot of women pick the wrong guys...Then end up hating men after they realize... Tell him you want a divorce. Wait a month or 2 and let him catch you in bed with someone..Tell him he is moving in. Do you screw around too??seems thats a trend
2007-11-13 08:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by tonez61 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should adore her Dad, but she will see in time what he's all about. Hopefully he is a mature father, not like he wasn't a husband! Good Luck!
2007-11-13 08:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by itsmetrea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me if he has done u wrong in the past it may seem like he has the glory now but wait until karma kicks into high gear
2007-11-13 08:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by dejannea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show your daughter how you truly feel. talk to her about it in an honest to goodness way. explain to her everything. teach her what is true, what is right, what is painful, what is abusive, as opposed to what is not. don't let her lieve a lie. don't let her be blind to life and to the buses of men that she will have to eventually face when she grows up.when she grows up, you would want her to be wise, right? to spot abuse when she sees one and to flee from it herself. would you want her to be attracted to a guy, adoring him coz he is so much like her father, and end up in pain and in an abusive relationship also? would ou want her to be blind to the errors and evil of men and be victimized also when she grows up? don't sllow her to live a lie just so she would think she hasa the nicest, greatest father. teach her to respect her dad, that's okay. but teach her also to respect the soul of a woman, the womanhood a woman, and to protect the dignity of a woman...so that she will end up respecting herself and protecting herself.you are not just a mother who will try to make her believe how good her family and her dad is, when it ain't true. you are a mother who will teach her all the sides and aspects of life that she needs to see in order to be wise and strong...and safe.teach and show her the truth. without causing her to be hateful and paranoid. show her the balance of things.try to teach her what a real man i supposed to treat a woman, what she should look for in a guy and what kind of guys she should adore.
2007-11-13 09:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by opwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can kick him out and your daughter can still love him. You desreve a real husband. It is his responsiblity to earn your daughters admiration. He is being a pig and something has to change. He has to stop that right now
2007-11-13 08:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by just duky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have an open marriage? Do you like
the girl? Why did you marry the guy Sweet S?
2007-11-14 21:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by WorldClassPlayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u shouldn't care anymore tell him go want to divorce with him and move on with ur life
2007-11-13 08:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋