Opinion on News article: Should Adoptees see their birth/adoption records?

Question

I personally think adoptees should be allowed to see their records if its for a medical reason and if their birth parents agree to meet them. I know Im struggeling with the issue of should I find mine or should I just be happy I have great parents, which I am but part of me still wonders about her and why she gave me up. But in that same part that wonders why Im scared..... Im afraid theres a painful memory for her if I do ask about it. So as of right now I personally dont want to find her. I do if I change my mind have the website to a adoptee reunion site I can sign up for.My adoptive parents know I want to know about her and will support me if and when I do try and so does my husband. Please since this is a sensetive subject treat it with respect. Thanks guys

Answer 1

I think they should be allowed to. What's to say that the state of mind of the mother shouldnt change? And that one day she'd want to be found, no matter how painful? Or who's to know if maybe just knowing a name is all it might take to answer a life of questions.

I thought they changed the right-to-know laws, and made it public knowledge for kids to get access to those records....

Answer 2

It's up to you whether you search or not.

Not knowing what's on the other end can be the scariest thing. I think you'll find that, if you do search, it will be helpful to have your parents supporting you. That way, whatever happens, you will have love and support to lean on.

For me, searching wasn't about not being happy with the parents that raised me. I've said elsewhere in response to other questions that they love me, and I love them. They are great people. When I searched, I wasn't looking to replace them. But, like you, I had questions about where I came from. In the end, for me, the need to know was greater than the anxiety I felt.

I think whether adoptees actually see their birth records should be up to the individual adoptee.

However, if you are referring to the news article that was out yesterday, the position in that report was that all birth records should be open. That means, I should have the choice to see my birth records. I might not take that opportunity, and that should be okay, too. But I should have the same rights as everyone else to see my birth records. It is a right every other American citizen has, and it's wrong to deny it to adoptees.

Answer 3

Well I am adopted and I was able to see what my biological parents interest were and a vague description of them. I DID find my birth mom when I turned 21 that's how old you need to be in Wisconsin to find your birth parents. I was just interested in what she looked like, did she have the same qualities as me, things like that. I was also interested in her medical history. It was a nice reunion. I still see her from time to time but I don't call her mom I just can't because my adoptive parents were really good to me and I guess it's a respect issue. She is totally fine with me calling her by her name. She even took my wedding pictures for me at my wedding :)!!! She is a wonderful lady, just didn't have the money to raise a child at the time of my birth, she was young, and living at home. I understand and I respected her decision. As for your question. I believe that the adoptee should be able to see medical records and maybe a brief description of parents. There is a lot of comfort with knowing!!!!

Answer 4

I totally agree that an adoptee should have access to their birth records, especially for medical reasons.. I am not an adoptee myself, but if I were I would like to know what kind of medical history my family had so I could better care for myself just in case.
I hope that someday you have the courage to find your parents, I am sure your mother wonders about you all the time, regardless of the reason.
Good luck and take care :)

Answer 5

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