I am seeing someone I shouldn't be seeing. Their wife left them a year ago. I haven't met her. He's perfect for me but it seems he wasn't for her. He still loves her and wants her back and quite openly talks about this with me. I've know and been good friends with this man for 5 years. The changes occurred 8wks ago when he kissed me... after drinking too much! Then... it was going one for a while like that... but then last Wednesday... um, well, I may have experienced more of this man than I should have. I'm now so worried about my group of friends, because it's a secret- but I want more! Should I stop? I don't want to stop. Please don't tell me to! I have always been so good to everyone at the expense of myself. I have never been wild and crazy and said "stuff the concequences!!!!" Maybe if I spend some time with him he'll forget about his ex and fall in love with me. I'm a great catch (I'm told), but he's obsessing over her!! It's all a secret in case she wants him back!
2007-11-12 23:13:45 · 7 answers · asked by Ara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did I mention we work together?
2007-11-14 01:11:14 · update #1
No man turns down a sympathetic or willing female.
If you don't get out now, he will force you out later...
I'm sorry you've developed some feelings for him, but the clear fact that he's in love with somebody else shoulda been your first red flag.
Or you could always try to change/fix him (aka. get majorly screwed over and develop a deep resentment/depression).
2007-11-12 23:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up! Its all an evil dream HE does love her. You will always be second best should you will be dumped at the first chance me has to get back with her. You will find your own perfect lover you do sound like a great catch just let it go...
2007-11-12 23:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by johnboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously left him for someone else. He is a fool to hold on to hope rather than go with you. Keep going after him. Make him see that you care for him and want him. If he continues to talk about her and not show enough interest in you then dump him. He would then be a two time loser, not worthy of any woman.
2007-11-12 23:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space he needs to get over her before you let it happen again. If you don't you are setting yourself up to be hurt. You will be his rebound woman and get dumped when he gets over the heartbreak. If you just remain a friend, he may be interested in you later. Right now you are probably a booty call!
2007-11-12 23:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's all up to you if you want him to get over with you, but just let things happens naturally and don't force him to be with you coz it will may cause you a big failure in your life. Just take it easy and have fun. That's all you can do it right now, nothing else. God bless!
2007-11-12 23:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by hottstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance what have you got to lose! best of luck! i hope it all goes well for you.
2007-11-12 23:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from this guy. too much baggage
2007-11-12 23:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋