I am 30 pounds from my goal and having problems with family and friends?

Question

I have lost 120 pounds since last January. I am 30 pounds away from my goal. My family and friends seem h**l bent on messing me up and have gone very cold on support for my task. They have begun to bring food to me... sweets, home baked goods etc.... They bring them to work and my home. I usually thank them and hand them to my co-workers or find someone to give them to. My soul mate complains that he is gaining weight because of all the goodies in the house. I eat no sugar or white flour and frankly have no desire to now. It doesn't even taste good to me anymore. Why are they so bent on sabatoging me now?

Raji...you are good for my ego hon.....

Answer 1

I think that I'd tend to agree with Aussie, God and Goddess are providing this abundance to YOU as a way to demonstrate to yourself that you DON'T need it, that it is not necessarily healthy for you BUT, they also provide it so that you CAN "taste it" and then pass along that abundance so that others may enjoy it as well. Hint: try passing it on to MORE than just the Hubby. Don't pass on your "food addiction" to someone else, rather SPREAD the wealth around to a wider recievership.

Again, congrats on your acheivement. You've done a LOT with the resources at your disposal and have done a good job of it. You have GOOD reason to be proud. Bet you're a knockout now, quite the little hotty *winks*. That's OK, you can admit it now, you've EARNED the right to make the claim. (((((Ms Crone)))))

BB,
Raji the Green Witch

Answer 2

Awesome!!!! That you are on a diet and it's working so well for you! Like your first answerer said, they might not realize you are still on the diet... or, they may think you are at a good weight now. But that's the problem with a lot of diets. People get to their goal and then go back to the way they were eating before and wonder why they've gained the weight back. This is the main reason why diets don't work. It's the individual... but it seems you have got it licked and I think that's great! So tell them they need to quit bringing you sweets, etc... instead bring you fruit salad or a veggie plate. Only those things that you want to eat. But I don't think they are purposefully trying to sabatoge you... they just might not be thinking about it. Make sure they understand that you are still on the diet. And refuse any more sweets or your soul mate will have to go on one too lol =)

Answer 3

People will do this if they think you are sad or depressed. It is a cheaper way to "help" you through the tough times. When I have family or friends that look like they are unhappy or stressed I buy them a candle or incense to raise their moods. I look at it this way, the holidays are around the corner, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Winter blahs, and Valentines day, which all involve baked goods, cookies, candy, and tons of food. Why would I want to add to that?
They are not bent on sabatoging you, you have always been the one that appreciated a good home baked goody and they feel that you need them or would appreciate them. Just keep doing what you are doing and give them to others. Look at it as spreading the love.

Answer 4

I don't know exactly people do this but I've noticed it too. I think it's a combination of things.

So, just to be different, here's my crackpot theory.

It seems strange but I know is true is that we all have this ego inspired desire to be the source of temptation. It's like on some unconscious level we want people to desire us and the things we have. Deep in the dark recesses of our mind there is something that says "This person is dieting and therefore desires sweets. I can have what they desire and be great and powerful by sharing." To our ego I think a person giving a dieting person sweets is supposed to show off and make the person in our debt. Something like showing off money and sharing the wealth with a poor person. Egos aren't too bright.

Just a thought.

OH! Get that junk out of the house! It may call to you late one night. It's like letting someone bent on your distruction live in your kitchen. Bad idea.

Answer 5

I have had a weight problem since my teens and know how difficult it is to lose and how easy it is to gain..
Good on you for losing all that weight, you are an inspiration to all of us who wish to be slimmer and healthy..
I really for the life of me cannot understand your friends and family giving you all that rubbish food at this stage of your accomplishment..
It's a little bit like when you quit smoking and all your mates keep offering you a smoke, they don't want you be different from them..(BTW, I've been quit 2yrs 4mths)..
I cannot offer you an explanation as to why they are doing this, although a couple may be jealous of your new image..
I would personally take it as a challenge from the Gods, and say to myself ~~I've gone this far without breaking, so I can go that bit further, I'll show them~~
Keep up the fantastic job you have done, you are making me think that I too can do it again, as I am 3 stone overweight..
Blessings... )O(

Answer 6

i'm a gymnast and an at present on a weight-alleviation plan plan to coach for nationals. We use shakology. it rather is a form of protein shake (basically) and you only replace your on an widespread basis lunch with it. Cristain is honestly good in saying that sugary meals and soda are a definately no-bypass. attempt to steer in direction of meals that are low in energy yet intense in protein and fiber. for each 30g carbs you will have 10-15g fiber. additionally determine which you do ascertain what the right proportions and serving sizes are each time you consume. consume slower and you would be comprehensive with much less foodstuff. i can not say for you especially what number energy you will have an afternoon yet once you bypass on line you may get a greater acceptable theory of what number you consume as against what number you burn daily. To lose a million pound of fat you should burn 3500 energy greater effective than you consume. If available, you should consume 5 small foodstuff an afternoon (back, nonetheless changing lunch with shakeology) as detrimental to 3 greater effective ones. This keeps you greater comprehensive throughout the day at the same time as nonetheless lowering on the quantity of foodstuff you consume. stay remote from processed meals and incredibly consume organic meals. wish this facilitates and good success! :)

Answer 7

It sounds like they are jealous of your achievement my dear friend. I lost some weight last year, nothing like how much you have lost, and i didn't have anyone try to sabotage me, except a couple of my sisters said I looked anorexic.

Try to ignore them, and if that doesn't work, tell them on no uncertain terms, that you are sick and tired of telling them to cut it out, and the next time one of them brings you something to eat that they know is not on your diet, tell them they will be engaging in a behavior that is evidently done purposely to annoy, harass, disturb, and otherwise bug you, and why oh why do they want to treat you so badly? (shed a sad tear or two here if the spirit so moves you...)

Telling them that way may work better than telling them to fluck off and die.

Answer 8

Don't know, but it really sounds like those nearest & dearest are concerned about your current weight. It's great to have lost so much, but maybe the last 30 that you are aiming at is just to much for those who care about you.

It's the only reason I can see for them to stop the support you've had before.

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Answer 9

some time people around us get jealous from us. instead of achieving that goal them self they start jealous that person who attain that thing with hard work. so don't worry much about them and concentrate on ur goal.

Answer 10

i dont know if their intentions are good or bad since i dont know the entire context, but you need to sit down with each of them all together and state explicitly- this is my goal and i need your support in achieving it so please, i appreciate your gifts but they can not be food any longer..anything but food and i will graciously accept it. they should understand them temptations of food in front of you increase the chances of eating badly tremendously. but communication is essential..do it in a very loving, diplomatic, but very direct way.
good luck :):)