I told my friend that she could stay at my house for 2 weeks . She called me up today (she left a message, i havent responded yet) and wanted to know if she could bring Baxter her 2 year old pit bull with her. Ive never met this dog, and Im not sure I really want him in my house. Her last pit bull (passed away) was not the friendliest dog ,but she thought he was the best behaved dog ever. I wouldnt mind him coming if it was just me,but ive got 3 young kids, a husband, 3 dogs and a cat . She gets very defensive when ever anyone starts bashing" pit bulls. How can I politely ask her to leave Baxter at home without offending her . ? Tips ,suggestions appreciated.
2007-11-12 15:00:40 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
If I could do a trial basis I would but she is driving 6 hours to visit her parents then driving to my house and staying with me. I wasnt trying to base it on breed but on her past experience with dogs and my kids and pets.
2007-11-13 06:20:56 · update #1
Be honest with her, that you are looking out for the safety of your family and that you just don't feel comfortable with that dog in your house. If she doesn't like that answer then she doesn't have to stay at your house. You are being a good friend by letting her stay at YOUR house. Remember it's your house, your rules. She can agree by them or not stay there
2007-11-12 15:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by adsklfjadlgj 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough situation, I rescue pit bulls and can honestly say that this dog should not be brought into a house with 3 other dogs there. This could be a recipe for disaster. I would not worry about the kids too much as pit bulls are not human aggressive (unless trained that way). If the kids are very small it would be a problem because pits are strong and could knock your kids over. I would explain to your friend that you have 3 dogs and pit bulls do better in a household as a only dog. This is not bashing but is the truth. Oh and the cat would not have a great time either :-) Also, pit bulls usually start to display dog aggresive tendencies around the 1 1/2 to two year timeframe, so even if Baxter plays nice now with other dogs, the aggressive trait could manifest at anytime. I hope it works out for you in talking to your friend.
2007-11-17 01:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by netbeagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a pit bull issue, it's an issue with someone trying to take advantage of your friendship or maybe she's just clueless. I'd just laugh and say, are you kidding, I've got a husband, 3 young children, 3 dogs and cat, I don't think so. If she says, well okay if I can't bring my dog I'm not coming, say fine and continue talking about something else. My husband's son (with girlfriend) wants to bring his 2 very large dogs from out of State at Christmas. I'll have 4 house guests, 15 people on Christmas Eve, 10 people for Christmas dinner, my own 2 dogs and a cat and the idiot wants to add his 2 dogs to the mix - picture that one. I've said nope, it's not going to happen. Good luck with your girlfriend.
2007-11-12 23:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by Little Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would ask to see the dog first.
But it seems like you are uncomfortable with it in general, and i think that it understandable considering her past dog and the fact that you have children. I would politely tell her that your house is pretty packed as is and that you don't trust your dogs behavior. I try to take all the blame and never once blame it on the breed or her training.
I personally would not do it simply because bringing any dog that usually lives with a person or two into a house full of people and other animals is very stressful. It is a completely new environment and you never know how any breed of dog would react.
2007-11-12 23:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by sun1flower42 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Tell her your dogs do not like doggy visitors, tell her you allow no doggy visitors, tell her you prefer she not bring her dog since you do have pets and kids and suggest she board him or you can find a pet friendly hotel. Or tell her Baxter will have to be crated in a secure room, garage if cool or temp controlled or otherwise locked up. I have 6 dogs and am very picky about my canine guests esp since I have a very fragile 13 yr old MinPin who could literally die if jostled to much. He was severely injured by the neighborhood kids. I can not control his actions very much but I can prevent him being killed by a friend's dog.
2007-11-12 23:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by ginbark 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Tell her you already have a house full of people and pets and you have room for one person temporarily but that's it. Honesty is the best way to go and if she gets upset that's her problem. You agreed to let her stay for 2 weeks not her dog.
2007-11-12 23:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should judge Baxter for Baxter.. not on the merrits... or the lack there-of of the other dog.
I would tell her that you are willing to give it a try on a VERY strict probation period. If the dog does anything at all that is out of line let it be known before hand that it must leave immediatly and spend the rest of her time there at a Vet or a Kennel.
It is not fair to discriminate. It is not fair to teach your children to fear.
Pit bulls are known for being the most child frendly f breeds (dispite the hype). Go and do some research. This pit bull scores highest on temperment test. WAY higher than a "cute" little pom.
Please think it over.
To automatically ban hi for his breed is no more reasonable than to ban him for his color.
~Tyed~
2007-11-12 23:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by owltyedup 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
i think that you should ask to see the dog before it actually comes to stay with you. If the dog is could and you think it wont harm the kids and you have enough room then yes. If the dog is defensive in any way and mean then no. REMEMBER: be sure to check when the dog eats if you try to grab his food and he growls thats a very bad sign ans you shouldnt have children or other animals around him.
2007-11-12 23:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, no, no, NO......PB's are NOTORIOUS for not getting along with other dogs. That is not to say ALL PB's are like that, but the breed has a tremendous propensity for such behavior. And, this being YOUR home, you have every right to make the rules. You, your family, and your pets take precedence over your friend's love for Baxter. Surely your friend can understand that.
Be firm.
I have PB's....and they stay home.
2007-11-12 23:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
your family comes first and if u feel like u dont want the dog in your house then i would go with that and just tell her sorry u can bring the dog go with your feeling its all ways right
2007-11-12 23:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋