2007-11-11 21:59:25 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When someone here says I'll pray for you (presumably for me to see things their way and not be such a jerk), I feel it's clearly meant to insult - like as far as they are concerned it would take the power of God to fix what they think is wrong with me.
2007-11-11 22:03:21 · update #1
Chris_m: Christian passive aggressiveness is certainly next to something, I'm just not sure what.
2007-11-11 22:28:40 · update #2
I tell them. "How about you try exercising for me instead. It will have the same exact effect.
2007-11-11 22:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Pathofreason.com 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Many simply do not see the insult implied in it. They genuinely believe that they are right and the rest of us are wrong.
In their minds, we're supposed to take that as constructive criticism, as if they were actually experts in how life works.
Therein lies the insult. But to see that would be to acknowledge that they do not have a monopoly on the truth.
2007-11-11 22:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best and the most result oriented truth full way of helping both in times of need; i.e the self and the other alike is to pray and worship god.
Saints have known this as true; and thus have mentioned about its importance in scriptures.
They did it and practised it because they were saints; but it is not possible for common and ordinary people to act and behave like saints; especially without adopting and knowing the qualities and abilities of sainthood in the life of self and without ever achieving them and practising to work with them
To pray for some one in a result oriented and solution driven way is the task of sainthood; but people especially Christians without knowing as to what it takes to achieve sainthood and to pray with such ability of self in self, blindly follow the sayings of their scriptures, thinking that they are acting wisely in accordance to the word of god; and their such acts would get results.
We in turn feel insulted or fail to believe in them; essentially because we ourselves not only fail to see and know by our selves if the other person is truly capable of praying in a result oriented and solution driven way; but also fail to experience and know the importance of prayers and results it can bring when performed with qualities and abilities of sainthood.
2007-11-11 22:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by ts@greenpastures 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
"I'll pray for you" is our way of saying that your situation, whatever it may be, is out of our control and that the only place that we can go is God for the answers. It is not meant as "a thinly veiled insult" as you so elegantly put it. We don't expect God to do anything but if he does let God be the glory and if he does let God still be the glory. That is just a faith. God bless.
2007-11-11 22:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by ChaRiaLer 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I hope if a Christian says, "I'll pray for you", that he or she will do so with sincerity in humility. I try not to say that unless I intend on following through with my promise.
2007-11-11 22:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Wassa! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't say that unless I mean it.Again this is another example of putting across that Christians don't get angry and prone to thinking they don't have imperfections.
Has it occurred to you that some of us actually want the best for you and DON;'T want to change you. When you say 'we all know...'..implies an ability to be overly critical and judgemental yourself and a tendency to put everyone in the 'same boat'
Whether one is christian or not,we are all equal and there is good and bad in us all.
2007-11-11 23:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mercede's Lamp 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm a christian... im not all the "goody two-shoes" person either...
if i ever say... " I'll pray for you".... i mean i will pray that everything will get better for you...
and i do pray...
=) i also believe in God but I don't believe you HAVE to go to church to know about God or believe in him......
( please tell that last comment to some people that say you HAVE to go...) ...... =) thanks ...laterz
2007-11-11 22:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by gringa LoKiTa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may see it as an insult, but when we promise to Pray for someone it is intended to be a blessing.
2007-11-11 22:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is called being passive aggressive, many many Christians are masters of this. It makes them feel high and mighty to believe that they know a secret that you do not.
2007-11-11 22:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Uh-oh. That's quite an....assertion. I'm uncomfortable with generalizations like that. I'm sure some who honestly believes in their faith, do honestly mean well when they say it. Others though, I'd have to agree, use it as an insult. Using love as hate!
2007-11-11 22:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
They just want to show that they are powerful & that no other religion or God is powerful or i would rather say that they do not believe in other Religion/God & according to them only Jesus is God & other religions/God is Satan. This is Rubbish
2007-11-11 22:13:26 · answer #11 · answered by haswanidise 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋