Im addicted to strip clubs and I cant stop.?

Question

Im in my early thirties and over the last 11 plus years I have been going to strip clubs to escape. Its started as a hobby and I think it has materialized into a serious addiction. To date, I have dropped in access of $50,000 on strip clubs alone. In addition to that, Ive also visited countless escorts and massage parlors. Financially it has destroyed me . Ive had $300 nights at the strip club, $200 nights, $500 nights, $800 nights, $100 nights , $50 nights, $20 nights , $2000 nights, and so forth and so on. Ive gone there hundreds of times and have a toilet paper worth of ATM receipts and ATM fees to prove it. Im not super rich but when Im in the strip club, money doesnt mean anything. Ive tried to stop for 7 months but I always end up back there worse than ever. Im not sure why I do this and its caused me alot of pain and anguish. How can I turn my life around ? I cant seem to find a balance and normal life like most people. My life is very abnormal. And lastly, am I going to hell ?

Answer 1

You're not going to hell. You're using the strip club to fulfill a need that your regular life is not satisfying. Some people turn to alcohol or drugs, you're turning to sex and strip clubs. Your money will be put to better use on a therapist or talking to a friend that you trust. You're wasting your time, money, and energy on something that will just leave you feeling more empty. I'm sure paying someone to dance for you, spend time w you, or massage you is great, but it's even better if you find a meaningful relationship w a woman. Please try and get some help - you seem like a sweet and sincere guy...

Answer 2

First thing, you're not going to hell. The person in line to be the next Dalai Lama went to a strip club, and liked it (although it wasn't an addiction). Sounds like your mind needs a 'rush' to feel balanced. If you feel unbalanced before you go to the club, and then more or less temporarily sated, it's definitely doing something for your brain. Are you a 'high risk' person? Do you like to do things that could potentially put you in danger, like speeding, or doing things at the very last minute? If so, you could be using the clubs sort of like a stimulant or anti-depressant. You could also have ADD, but I wouldn't just assume that without some sort of counseling. Since you need some help now, I figure, look at it this way: You are satisfying a need by doing something 'passively'. All you do is pay money and sit back and watch. What could you do legally that would satisfy you that would be active? Like skin diving, parachute jumping, training for the marathon, martial arts. At least that would be a more 'healthy addiction' and cost a lot less. Another thing is whether you feel like you're doing something illicit? Maybe it feels good doing something you think is 'bad.' If so, what about if it was considered perfectly healthy to go to strip clubs? Would it still have the appeal. Then there's the question about getting the amount and quality of the sex you want? If not, that's probably part of the equation.

Answer 3

I'm not sure about the hell thing there,but try seek professional help that's the only way you can manage yourself,don't think about expenses just think the other way around,if you don't seek help your expense Will go up, but with the help it may be costly but sure it will help stop your addiction.try focusing on your family life, go out with your friends, tell them what you have gone into they might help you stop,just make sure your friends don't like strip clubs they might be hooked with it also and that will be another problem.;-)

Answer 4

I does sound like a classic addiction. you realize you are ruining your financial and mental well being, but your are powerless to stop. Go to a library and get a copy of the AA manual ... really. it could help. The only known help for an addiction is a spiritual approach.

Answer 5

Talk to a pastor/minister/preacher w.e
Just be careful where you go b/c some churches just make you feel worse then you did before you stepped foot in there
Go to a someone who listens && gives you good perspective
My youth minister is a GREAT guy to talk to he won't make you feel like crap && he will truly try to help you
If you would like his e-mail let me know && I can e-mail it to you

Until you find the right person to talk to,
Just pray
Read the bible

Hope that helped & hopefully you'll ask me for his e-mail, I'd like for you to be able to talk to someone AWESOME who will not criticize you or demean you.

Good Luck && God Bless

Answer 6

that won't automatically send u to hell. But the answer to beat that addiction is 180 degrees in the opposite direction.
Since u mentioned hell, u must believe in God and hopefully Jesus, cuz that is surely the remedy. I am getting ready to crash for the night and I will certainly lift u up in my prayers now and will keep on remembering. (Been to them me self but not generous with the green as that.)

Answer 7

I'm not a god fearing man, doesnt sound like you really are either. But that might be a good start for you my friend, go to church, find Jesus.

Or call up a talk show like Dr. Phil and mayble they'll help and take care of all the expences at the same time.

Answer 8

I think you should see a therapist[ no, I'm not trying to be a smart ***]
It could be an obsessive disorder with going there all the time.
You could also try to stop going.
Have someone you trust help you with money, and keeping you from going.

Answer 9

Well, its really about how bad YOU want to stop. it seems you have a major problem so I would recommend getting into a relationship if you are not in one already and get help if you can from a professional. Hope you get better

Answer 10

Sometimes you need professional help. Try talking to a psychiatrist