I want to punish my daughters for swearing. any ideas? i want her to remember it. she is 14.?

Question

I am not against corporal punishment. pls only relevant answers not any telling me im a bad parent.

Answer 1

Okay... most teenages swear.... and it gets worse when parents/teachers bite or have a reaction. She is probably trying to discover who she is!

I do think you need to keep the communication open and offer unconditional love and support to your daughter as in this day and age that is all we have.

I think you should sit down and talk to her and say that you do not condone that kind of behaviour and find out why she is doing it. You may be surprised... She may be just "testing the water" as I know when I was a teenager I found swearing so naughty and rebelling as it was something that my parents could not stand. (If I got smacked or punished, it would honestly make it worse...)

Even if you find a compromise, she may promise not to swear around you (eg mum, teachers and elderly people) and that will be that! (Which you must admit you both would be happy with that)

I don't agree with the corporal punishment approach (as I have never needed or used it on my child) but I know removing her privillages such as TV, phone, computer & ipod etc will hurt more than anything you can "dish" out as this would stop her world.

* If she swears, take away 1 privillage for selected time.

* Each time she swears after this, give her an extra week or take away more privillages such as phone/ipod.

* SWEAR JAR: You could have a swear jar, and every time she swears she could put in $1 in which YOU get to spend at the end of selected time.

* POSITIVE SWEAR JAR: You could always offer the positive approach when she has not said one swear word for a day (If she is bad, then even 10 minutes). For every "selected time" she does not swear YOU put in $1 in a jar and then go shopping and spend it on her. (But don't tell her what she can and cannot buy as this defeats the purpose!)

* Give her more responsibilities: If she doesn't have a part-time job or have chores, help her get a job and give her a list of chores that she gets pocket money for. I know an employer would not tolerate swearing on the job and it would teach her responsibilities and help her by managing her OWN money and time.

* If she doesn't have a phone/ipod etc then tell her you will buy her one when she learns NOT to swear.

P.S. Though remember if she travels by herself (or with friends) to and from school/job you should let her have her phone for these times only as it really is a safety issue. Just take it off her as soon as she gets home.

Good Luck to you and your daughter!

Answer 2

Taya, I think at 14 your daughter is too old for corporal punishment.

I suggest taking her favourite item (computer, ipod whatever) from her for a fixed time (say, one week) with the guarantee if she continues to swear the time will increase every time it occurs again.

Bearing in mind though, swearing is kind of a natural stage growing up - perhaps a little allowance is required (a little not a lot).

Also, remember that you will need to ensure you watch yourself also - you can't be seen as a hypocrite otherwise all lessons are lost!

Answer 3

She has a curling iron? that is wierd... She has a mattress? that is wierd... She has extra beneficial than 2 clothing? that is wierd... My element is: in case your daughter is bodily harming others (rather your son) then she desires a wakeup call. in case you have not have been given a spare storage lease a public storage. Take off sooner or later of paintings and on a similar time as she's at college, take each little thing and that i advise each little thing which includes her door faraway from her and all that she owns different than for here... foodstuff, 2 clothing of clothing, and a bar of cleansing soap. this is it. this is all you're required to furnish her so as that's what she would have. As time progresses, her mindset will replace and because it does enable her %. one ingredient she needs decrease back. additionally, she won't have privilages which includes after college events, pals, telephone conversations, a television, a working laptop or laptop, track, or something that ought to shop her entertained. have exciting.

Answer 4

seriously lady what is wrong with u! are you seriously! bro all your questions on yahoo answers on how to punish you daughter...on a cruel punishment.
so ur not against corporal punishment huh? how many times did u get beat up by your parents when u were young. is this why your doing this to your daughter.
try instead of hitting her or giving her a weird,cruel, and unusual punishment try talking to her like a NORMAL person... or is that to hard for you.
it looks like punishing your daughter is your hobby!
enjoy the time you have with her now cause am sure if u keep this up by the time she is 18 she will move out... be careful not even sooner.
and there is a thing called hrs u know.
then u ask for ppl not to call urself a bad parent.

Answer 5

What about the old fashioned washing her mouth out with soap? If that doesn't work, just remove a priviledge like the computer or TV for a week. 14 is a bit old for corporal punishment unless you're really, really strong.

Answer 6

Girl I feel you kids just dont realize how good they have it!! Mine are not 14 yet but already saying things they shouldn't (NOT SWEARING) they say"BUT MOM" that drives me crazy!! For the girl that is talking about her leaving when she is 18!! She needs to pay attention to her school books and stop trying to give parenting advise!! Be glad you have a mother who cares enough to punish you!! I would go with the taking her fun stuff away!! Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Start a "cuss jar". Every time they hurl the F-bomb or other sort of offensive epithet around, make them put money in the jar. Make sure it's secure: she'll steal he money otherwise. Then use that money for you and your wife to do something togeher, while she has to sit home wih a babysitter. That's a punishment that'll bite her for a long time.

Answer 8

I'm 14 and coz i'm the same age i can helpp you.

maybe take somthing of her that she loves for a week or so.
like if she cant live without her mobile phone take that of her, or if she likes to hang out on the weekend, grownd her.

(if you dont no what that is, its when you say they cant go out with there friends and they have to stay inside the house our in the backyard for a set period of time>) hope this helps

Answer 9

Take away her cell phone for 2 weeks , no tv , no computer , etc ... find something she adores and take it away for a long period of time

Answer 10

try taking stuff away if that doesn't work try making them wear a sign every where for a week saying I cuss.