I was pretty sure it's what I wanted to do at the time because I felt like we didn't have that much in common really, but now I'm feeling really upset that I did.
She's such a nice warm person and she's very pretty and really liked me, and was upset that I broke up with her, and now I'm feeling really lonely all of a sudden....
is that normal to have regrets like that after breaking up?? Does it mean I should reconsider? for context, I'm 24.
2007-11-11 18:41:57 · 15 answers · asked by eltonr2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
F the hoes... you're 24... that means that you are prime cougar bait.
Use that to your advantage.
2007-11-11 18:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is definitely normal. No matter the reason you will miss them. Afterall if you didn't it would really make you have to question why you were with them to begin with if there was no emotional attachment. I usually attribute a breakup much to that of an addict trying to stop their drug of choice cold turkey. Usually you go through the same withdrawls and cravings but remember you broke up for a reason. Wait it out and whatever you do DO NOT have ANY contact with this person until you are TRULY over them. You will within a few weeks THINK you are over them until you run across them then all those feelings will come back. General rule is to go 2 months without contact. After that if it was meant to be fate will find a way to bring you back together ;)
2007-11-11 18:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by budlanenc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no! Just wait it out. You're lonely. Part of breaking up with someone is also breaking habits and moving out of the comfort zone that you were in while you were with her. Some good advice from a book I read while going through my last break up, was to give it 60 days - no contact with your ex for 60 days. That gives you enough time to establish new routines and if at the end of that time you still miss her a whole bunch and think you made a mistake, then give her a call just to see what's up.
My bet is that right now you're just lonely for that comfortable feeling you had with her.
2007-11-11 18:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have realized that age doesn't matter when it comes to affairs of the heart. Heartache is painful no matter what your age. When a relationship ends, no matter how good or bad the relationship was, there are all kinds of emotions that go along with it.
There are stages of the healing process that you go through. One of which is lonliness. Its hard to be involved with someone and build your daily activites around them then all of a sudden they are out of the picture. Just because your lonely, doesn't mean that you made a bad decision in breaking up.
Give it some time. As others have answered: time does heal. Just hang in there and things sometimes have a way of working themselves out.
2007-11-11 18:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal, after people break up they tend to remember all the good things about the other person instead of the bad things or the things that made you want to break up in the first place. Also we get used to being around a certain person and then all the sudden we are alone, so go out and surround yourself with friends for a while and try to reflect on the things that were not so good instead of the good things in the realtionship, IF you really want to stay broken up, DON"T give in. we have all been there, honestly, we have.
2007-11-11 18:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by nascar_cr8zy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang on,time is a healer.i have had many heartbreaks in my life im 35 and only been married 3yrs,you are young and u have your life in front of you,6 wks before i was due to get married 8 yrs ago my partner was killed in front of me i cant explain how that felt,life is hard i am kurdish and i have lost 29 friends and family by death in the last 20yrs{back home} i have had heartbreaks in relationships i even wanted to end it all once but you can get over it believe me,concentrate on work and your goals in life for now and if anything nice happens in between thats a bonus,dont look for love it will only be around the corner,enjoy yourself mate
2007-11-11 18:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by saywan a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely normal to miss someone you were attached to,one other factor to consider is the time spent Wit that particular person,i think during this period is when you will realize wat u feel for her and really appreciate her,i can tell that you oridy are,but that doesn't guarantee you that you will get back together,i think you really need to find yourself first give it a little more time eventually things will for into place and if you were meant for each other you will get back together.L.G
2007-11-11 19:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by poodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its actually common to feel upset and not used to it at first. Maybe because the relationship is long and i think it need sometime to get over it. But i pretty sure most impt is to lead a happy life. Ask yourself, do you feel happy together with
her?
2007-11-11 18:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Eddie Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal to have feelings of withdrawal, especially since you aren't talking to other women. Look, you need to get out there and start approaching other women left and right until you're easily going out on 2 and 3 dates with different women every week. Once you do that, you'll forget about her.
2007-11-11 19:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Glenn Johnson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been in that relationship? aren't you just sour graping when you said "you didn't have that much in common."?
you missed her because that space that being occupied by her is now empty. i think you should reconsider. what i see i you right now is regrets. regrets that you suddenly ended up your relationship with her. relationship is give and take and being open to each other. think it over.
hope this help!
2007-11-11 18:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋