after my last serious relationship crashed i feel like i just dont have that touch with girls like i used to. i cant seem to figure out what im doing wrong. i need tips, as a girl how can i redeem myself?
2007-11-11 18:37:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have one relationship since then but we felt more like friends so we broke up it only lasted 3months
2007-11-11 18:54:21 · update #1
it still feel like a great spark
2007-11-11 18:55:19 · update #2
typo: it didnt feel like a great spark. i cant capture who i want, i attract opposites
2007-11-11 18:56:45 · update #3
Oh, you sound like me (sometimes) :-)
Recovering from a failed relationship can be so consuming sometimes you tend to forget your self worth. But don't dwell on it too much, just get up and get going...that's what I do when I feel down.
So many things you can do to pre-occupy yourself for now. Don't worry, the right one will come in due time. Don't go looking for girls just so it can help you forget the other one...'coz it doesn't and you'll just be unfair to yourself and to the new girl.
I suggest you take a time-out first and just mingle for a while. Enjoy going out with friends and other social activities. Its quite normal to feel bad once in a while but do get over it soon.
As for the tip...just be yourself and don't try too hard. Relax and enjoy meeting people, meeting girls, and just try to get to know them better. Love will come sure enough.
God bless and goodluck.
2007-11-11 18:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Reese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not cursed. You are just in the middle of stuff. This is a great time to redefine yourself. Get out there and do something. Volunteer and Give of yourself without thought of return. While you are helping others you may notice others who are doing the same. These are the people that you want to consider hooking up with, because they are doing and giving of themselves just like you.
Make a difference in someones Else's life is the best way to make a change in your own.
2007-11-11 18:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your cursed :)
How long ago did your last relationship break up? If you are trying to find another girl on the rebound, don't. It might be making you feel better, but in the end it just hurts everyone's feelings when it ends.
If you are not ready for another relationship, just go and hang out with your female friends. Remind yourself what girls like, and who knows; one of them might introduce you to the girl of your dreams!
Don't think you have to be in a relationship; you don't. Only go out with people you actually like, and enjoy it. Just because you haven't found the perfect woman yet doesn't mean it won't happen soon, and why not enjoy it while you're waiting?
2007-11-11 18:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not cursed! I have no idea how old you are so its hard to sugguest anything. I think the most important thing is to figure out who you are and what you want out of a relationship. After being in lontg-term relationships people tend to lose their individuality.
Once you've got that figured out and know what you want, then start to look for it. They say love happens when you least expect it, so go easy on yourself.
2007-11-11 18:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by rogue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for just "any old mate". Join an organization that shares your love of doing something, because then you know that the other person shares a common interest. It could be a book club, a bicycle club, a chess club, etc. - just something where you have a great interest.
2007-11-11 19:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would like a lil more info but i will help as best as i can how did u get the last one? are u a user just to get sex? if so maybe ur rep has got around, if not you need to build your confidence back up and make sure ur not still on the rebound before getting involved again trace back ur steps what was u doing b4 that worked and go back to that
2007-11-11 18:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by child4jc74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have lost some confidence since your relationship ended. Think about all the positive things about yourself (don't get cocky though) and start striking up more conversations with girls....don't be afraid of rejection or a failed relationship. Just put yourself out there,it will be worth it.
2007-11-11 18:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by dhallkb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be genuine...don't try an be someone youre not. Be sincere and put forth effort...compromise on things.... Don't let usual sigh go by...communication and honesty are key....
2007-11-11 18:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Riley P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
or possibly your doing somewhat too plenty weed? calm down, your overreacting somewhat.. capture ladies checking you out? recently people "people watch" meaning.. laugh at people.. locate the flaws and laugh
2016-10-16 05:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regain your confidence
and dont think negatively stay positive
your not cursed, so dont worry
xD
2007-11-11 18:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by simplycomplex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋