my parents are the complete opposite of that. they're constantly saying things like "When we grow old, you better take care of us", "I've given you everything that I had, so you have to repay us when you get a career", "You owe us so much, and we expect you to pay it all back when you get older". i don't understand HOW any parent could think like that. it's not like I chose to be born, right? they should've been willing to sacrifice everything and unconditionally love me. isn't that how parent-children relationships are supposed to be? or is there really a debt that i'm in?
2007-11-11 18:18:15 · 15 answers · asked by Rin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What we are suppose to do as parents, and what we do do aren't always they same. Yes, I feel that parents should love their children unconditionally, however that isn't always the case. Some people, and I stress SOME people, consider children an investment in their future. Think about kids are a tax right off, if you are in the military you get paid extra with more dependents, the more kids in your family the more government programs you are able to apply for.
And then there is the comfort of securing yourself something other than a nursing home when you are older.
And in someways you do pay in back. When your parents can work anymore and the social security system is so messed up you might help with bills, and putting food on the table, or covering medical expenses.
Don't read to much into it now, but think about the long term picture.
I can only hope that when I am older, my daughter will be there for me, like I am there for her now.
2007-11-11 18:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by winterpixie_13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are right. I would do anything for my daughter. However, I know in my heart that she would do anything for me. Why do they feel like they need to say this? It is a given for my daughter and me.
However, she is still young. Teens will be the hardest for any child. It will suck. And I know she will resent me on a lot of things. However, I hope she will thank me when she grows up.
We have an unconditional bond that will last forever. I would do anything for that kid -- even if it meant working three jobs and never sleeping just so that she was happy.
And I don't have to tell her that. She just knows it.
I think that eventually your parents and you will realize the same.
2007-11-11 18:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Becca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're parents are raising you the best way they know how. I suppose the same thing was told to them when they were young. Don't worry about the future. If they don't know unconditional love, show it to them by assuring them you love them immeasurably, and always will. The hope is that parents leave their children with blessing (monetary, and by blessing that can not be purchased) not cursings or debt. If they don't learn this, than keep this for your children.
2007-11-12 10:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by cure_eeh_us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents do need the respect that they deserve for bringing you in to this earth and taking care of you.
BUT your parents kind of seem greedy.
Parents are suppose to have unconditional love towards their children no matter the mistakes they have done or will do in the future.
I'm not a parent but i already have love for my "future" kids and no matter what they do, I will ALWAYS love them.
2007-11-11 18:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU loved your parents unconditionally you wouldn't care that you might have to take care of them one day.
Just let them rant, when you become an adult, you'll know what is right and what isn't. There's no law that says that you have to take care of your parents, you just do it because you love them. When the time comes, that decision will be made by you.
2007-11-11 18:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Vee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depend on the culture. Some things are expected of children. You will know when you have your own what a big sacrifice it is.
2007-11-11 18:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Will take care of my parents when they get old. And they NEVER asked me to. I Myself feel like i owe it to them for giving me life and raising me. not to mention all of the things that they have done for me since i have been grown. I think once you mature you will realize that you do owe it to your parents weather they mention it or not.
2007-11-11 18:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by KiKi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a really rough childhood but my parents still did every thing they could to provide for my sister and i but they have never asked or told either of us to pay them back.As for paying them back,when i get on my feet i plan to.love for your child should be forever lasting.my family has a saying your parents raise you for the first 18 years of life and you raise your parents their last 18 years of life
2007-11-11 18:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by TRACY B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when we're younger, we are our parents' children, and when we grow older...they are our children. it doesn't matter if they remind us or not, but we do always have our duties and responsibilities for them. yes, we have our debts to our parents, but its too high for us to reach, so we can't repay them completely, we just can try to do something for them. don't be upset if they talk to you about these stuff. we also were bugging them every often in many ways when we were younger and they brought us up.
2007-11-11 18:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not in debt to anyone that you choose not to be in debt to. They are just making it clear that they have sacrificed a lot for you. They may have even put themselves in debt for your education, and they do not want you to forget what they have done for you. Just be as good to them as possible when you are older and they will appreciate it.
2007-11-11 18:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋