2007-11-11 18:05:20 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
They are really that nice in youth group, it's when you go to the adult section that it sucks.
2007-11-11 18:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I guess "feigning" can be very obvious, God gave you a free will to discern things, so I don't think any of us can judge them if they are fake or not except you.......you were there, and meeting for the first time and once is not enough to say if they are fake or not, this should be done some more times and then you can decide if they are or not,,meanwhile, it is always good to join such groups, but personally i don't believe youth can be fake, they are more vulnerable than adult, outspoken and assertive..so the decision is yours oK?
2007-11-11 18:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to know. Some might be really nice, others fake. You probably will not end up being friends with every single member, but maybe you can still be friends with a few of them. Don't be offended by ppl who are nice. There are offices in this world where nobody makes the effort to even crack a smile or to feign being nice.
2007-11-11 18:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have a tendency to act differently depending on the situation. In a church group, people expect you to act a certain way so most people change their behavior. In an open environment, these people are often not so "nice"
And remember, this is an environment where people have generally the same ideals and often is made of similar demographics in race and income. This tends to "lubricate" social situations. Put them in a "real world" environment and they'll probably be different.
2007-11-11 18:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT fake. usually in those groups, people like to welcome "newbies" and make you feel "at home." a lot of them would probably want you to be their friend and get to know you better. There are also good and bad sides to everyone. one person is not going to be nice all of the time, but i think that, especially in church youth groups, they try to be there best to make a good first impression (don't we all :D ) and then they will let down there "happy high" and get to know you better. I don't think it's bad. But, then it depends on what type of church you are going to....but that's for another question :P hope that helps! =)
2007-11-11 18:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Hobbit__song 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They really are nice. Youth groups are the only places I feel comfortable because everybody knows God and they're not judgemental. They are often raised in Christian homes and know better than to ever do anything mean to anyone even if they aren't Christians. Youth Group is the one place...I'm safe.
2007-11-11 18:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Bren J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
now. this is something you have to be careful with. it is easy to judge that they are both real nice, and easy to judge that they are fake.
most of the time when you are at youth camp..there is something that brings out the best in everyone because they are away from the stresses of everyday life. i like to say the true them comes out in youth camp.
but then, once its over, the stresses come back, the tempatations come back, and a lot of people fall into old habits, which include no longer being nice.
i say, some are, some are not. just understand that people are different in different situations.
2007-11-11 18:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take an atheist or a pagan with you next time you go. Let us know how nice they are then.
I went to a church function with a friend many years ago. A woman and I were talking for quite a while. She was very friendly. When she asked me if I was a part of the church and I said no, she literally turned her back on me lol *shrug*
As long as you are a part of the crowd, I'm sure their friendliness in genuine.
2007-11-11 18:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My experience is that the vast majority of people are actually nice. You are meeting them at church where the overall theme IS to be nice, so don't be surprised if you meet a lot of nice people there.
We are bombarded by messages that really distort the world. Listening completely to just the mass media, you'd think we were surrounded by negativity...but in fact, on a personal level people are nice and want to be helpful and happy.
2007-11-11 18:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you'll know is with time.
Remember that they are people too. They have parents who fight, classes they don't understand. Etc.
The first step in being nice is to try to be. Sometimes it's hard. What if there were another new person there, and they looked at you--they would think you were one of the regular people who go there, and would judge it by how you act.
2007-11-11 18:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their little fake nice and fake voice that you put on for certain people or on the phone or when you first meet new people.
They are probably nice people, but you always get a little extra attention when you are new.
2007-11-11 18:08:52 · answer #11 · answered by cadisneygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋