this chick who is 21 and im 18 sorta like each other, but shes afraid to go out with me cuz she dont wanna hurt me like some older guy hurt her....how do i get her past that....i mean shes told me she likes me and would like to go out but yet she wont so help?
2007-11-11 18:03:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe i should mention she said she doesn't really want to date and then went on a date with a different guy this weekend
another thing is that shes honest at least, and several times shes said she wants to kiss me but again is afraid
2007-11-11 18:19:59 · update #1
Your chances would improve if you thought of her as a woman instead of a chick.
From the little you've told us I'm very suspicious of her. I'm bringing my own baggage, I know, because a 21-year-old neurotic had me on a string like that for months, leading me on and pulling away, even the bit about supposedly wanting to kiss. I was 21 too, so it wasn't an age issue. If she also has signs of low self-esteem then I'd be certain she's neurotic and you'll never get her past that. Neurotics can be real appealing, but they're poison. If you are drawn to one, run away as fast as possible.
2007-11-11 18:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you "sorta like each other". Listen, she would go out with you but she may be afraid it'll ruin your friendship if it wouldn't work out. And deep down she may still have feelings for this other guy. She has to want to get past the hurt and it may not be you that helps her do it. My son is 18 and has been in love more times than I can count.
Be patient ok. Someone will fall for you without all the excuses.
2007-11-12 02:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Christy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure her. At this point, she hasn't made up her mind about whether or not she can trust you. She says she wants to protect you, but it's always selfish reasoning. If she's saying that, then she means, "If and when we break up, I don't want to deal with all of the issues that will arise from it." Just take it slow. Remain friends and see where that takes you. Don't push it or bring it up too often. She may be seriously considering you as boyfriend material, but right now she isn't completely sold on it. Just prove to her you can be trusted. Don't take advantage of her or share any information she may tell you in confidence. Be a good friend.
2007-11-12 02:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kat1286 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l know to well what it feels like to be with someone who is holding back to being hurt in a previous relationship..l think the best thing is to give her time to heal from that and that takes time..
2007-11-12 04:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by judie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is older you can try to convince her but if you can't forget it because she has some issues she must deal with within herself. She is not sure of her self.
2007-11-12 02:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Dymond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, give her some time. it takes time to trust someone. and are you sure she likes you? just be caring and sincere, and eventually, she'd see you in a different light.
2007-11-12 02:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by bubblejumm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋