Besides the whole "just be there, its the best." No, I'm talking about something credible and helpful if you have lost connection with your bro. 19-10yrs
2007-11-11 17:57:08 · 19 answers · asked by Derick G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him that you love him and that you understand a lot more than he thinks that you do. Let him know that you are cool enough for him to be comfortable enough to talk to. Be his friend, gain his respect, and he will value your advice.
Do fun things with him, include him, and make him feel cool too! And make sure that he knows that you are proud of him.
Tell him that you do not want him to ever fell embarrassed about discussing ANYTHING with you. And take is issues seriously, even though you might think some are silly.
2007-11-11 18:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Boudreaux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn with him. After you are done with the book, visit Hannibal. If it is not affordable, do some of the things mentioned in the book. Fishing, painting a fence, or just camping together. Give your brother a positive roll model and you will always be looked up to. You sound like a wonderful person to even care so very much. Good luck to you!!!
2007-11-12 02:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by blue_eyesusa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do something with him every now and then. My brother and I are 10 years apart. I'm 42 and he's 52. When I was little, he used to take me on occasion to a Sat. movie, then to a little pizza resturaunt and sometimes to a little store that was near by to let me pick out a Matchbox car or two. It was really great to go do something with him. I still remember those good times today! Because when I was 9, he was 19 so he was always busy with his friends and I was little and didn't understand why I couldn't go to. It made me feel very special when he wanted to take me somewhere just for a guys day out kind of thing.
2007-11-12 02:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Johnnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's because because you two are far apart (distance wise, not emotionally), there is nothing a little brother loves more than a letter in the mail, or a phone call from his big brother. Not only are you keeping in touch, it makes him feel that you're there for him. If it's because of something one of you two did, talk about it. Be calm about it, and try not to take the conversation to extremes. If you did it, explain yourself. He'll listen. If he did it, ask questions, but not "Why?" or "What were you thinking?", because those questions make people very uncomfortable. Ask questions like, "What did you do?" and "Are you happy with your desicion?"
My stepmother has done everything under the sun to try and pull me, my twin brother, and my half brothers apart. But we still talk more than ever, even though I live 180 miles away with my mom. I send them letters and phone calls, and presents on their birthdays and holidays, and just because.
I recommend you give it a try. He'll love you for it.
Good Luck.
2007-11-12 02:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him out for a casual playdate, one-to-one. If he thinks that's lame, entice him with treats. Then go do something bonding and fun for both of you, i.e. a paintball match, a basketball game, a movie.
Then keep this tradition. It doesn't have to be the same activity, but dedicate time in your week to hang out with your little bro.
Other things to do: treat him like your peer, keep your teasing playful - not hurtful, set a good example. Little brothers get annoying, but they really look up to their older brothers (even when they're annoying the hell outta them).
2007-11-12 02:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Illastic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big brother must be a good model to his little brother. Be with him and give more attention to make up of the lost years you were not in company. "He isn't heavy, he is your brother" so do some lifting to light up your life and his life. "Blood is thicker than water" so there would be no strange feeling between you and your brother longing for each other's company as well. As a big brother, do moral and financial support to your little brother in one way or another.
2007-11-12 02:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Echo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! you are sooo sweet to want to connect with your bro. Sorry, I just felt I had to tell you, you're my hero for the day! Good luck, I hope some guys can give you good ideas!
Hey, you could always teach him how to fight, in case he needs to defend himself some day.
2007-11-12 02:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by dontknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take up a shared hobby, it could be Fishing camping, sports games, anything, just make sure you spend time with him and let him, through friendship, find out for himself that he has someone that he can confide in and trust, when he has questions and troubles in life. you will both feel a stronger connection, and a trusting bond that will hold through thick and thin
Todd
2007-11-12 02:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Todd M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with him. Take him to a ball game. Take interest in his life.
Being involved with him, will the most treasured thing he will have
2007-11-12 02:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look out for him without overstepping his boundaries as an older sibling.
Or pay for him when he's short on cash.
2007-11-12 01:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tantu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋