i met this guy on a summer soccer leage quite a few years ago when i was a sophomre in high school and he was a senior. we were friends then he moved six states away. we kept in touch talked on the phone every once in a while,few letters but not much. i didn't hear from him for about 8 months then all the sudden he started calling again. he got really overprotective, demanding to know where i'd been if i'd missed his call earlier. he'd give me a guilt trip, sayingi'm the only one he can talk to and trust and then i end up not being there. recently i've had some serious health problems, spend lots of time in hospitals and i don't always feel like a three hour phone conversation. now hes talking about having kids. i'm getting ready for college i do not want kids. or to be married. i'm still a teenager. how do i end this? i want a clean cut with nothing left unclear. i do not want kids, i do not want to get married i do not want a relationship right now. i want my independence.
2007-11-11 17:28:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"i do not want kids, i do not want to get married i do not want a relationship right now. i want my independence."
say that! Sounds to me that that is clear cut enough. He is 6 states away he can not control your life like that. It sounds like you have a clear cut idea of what you want your future to be and he is not part of that. Tell him that and be straight forward otherwise it will leave him with questions and more phone calls. After you have set him straight. DO NOT answer his phone calls, texts, emails. not a thing. It will give him hope you do want him back. Which I am sure you do not want.
2007-11-11 17:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by trustndluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've already answered your own question! Tell him "recently i've had some serious health problems, spend lots of time in hospitals and i don't always feel like a three hour phone conversation. i'm getting ready for college. i'm still a teenager. i do not want kids, i do not want to get married i do not want a relationship right now. i want my independence." And wish him the best of luck. If he still bothers you, change your phone number & mark his letters "return to sender, addressee unkown."
2007-11-12 01:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are not interested in a relationship with him or anyone else right now. Tell him that you would love to be able to help him with his problems, but right now you have too many problems of your own to deal with. Tell him that you think that it is best that the two of you take a break from your FRIENDSHIP for awhile while you are trying to sort out your problems. That way he will realize that you only consider him a friend anyway. Then just quit answering the phone for him.
2007-11-12 01:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still shock the fact that he hasnt called in 8 months and demands to know whats going on.. and I am thinking to myself .. shouldnt you be doing that instead of him? Why dont you just ignore him completely and just leave it like that and text him a message saying 'I am sorry but I cant be with you anymore...' your bf sounds like an a** you deserve a better man!
2007-11-12 01:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun if you tell him EXACTLY how you feel it shouldn't be a problem. If he can't respect your wishes, forget about him entirely (ignore his calls, change your number if need be). You need to worry about YOU! If you're not healthy that's all you need to think about. You're smart for not wanting kids right now, as with not wanting to get married. Go to school and have fun. You're only young once!
2007-11-12 01:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him dont end it just tell him u dont want kids but if u really dont want to be with him anymore be honast not mean tell him your too young and u want to go to collage and maybe later in life if u and he feel the same tell him u could try then but dont be mean about it some guys have a tendicy to take rejection to the wrong levle and do dumb things. also its best to do it face to face but in a crowded area were he cant freak out ya know.
2007-11-12 01:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set him straight.
i mean you have to face it sooner or later or he's gonna get realllllly overprotective.
there's no clean way to do it, really.
just tell him you need to move on, and the long distance relationship didnt really cut it. you need to move on. and so does he.
2007-11-12 01:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by anon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like this guy is tryin 2 push u from doing something... i thin u should just talk 2 him and tell him Wat u feel and if he don't agree wit u and your feels then i think u should leave him alone and go on with your life...... i had a similar problem i let him go....
2007-11-12 01:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three words to anyone who asks "How do I tell him/her?"
JUST SAY IT.
2007-11-12 01:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by oldschoolelf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋