this is my problem i need help on wat to do about this girl i am so confused with this. i need sum help?

Question

okay so this is the story theres this girl i first knew her last year in class but didnt really talk wit her but inthe summer i started talkin wit her on myspace now in skool we flirted did all dat i like her alot an she does to for a fact even her friends told me i tried akin her out but she tol me she aint redy for a realatonship since she jus got out of 1but her friends keep telling me to go wit her go be around her but i just cant idk y . i also am like clueless wen it cums to saying sumthing interesting or sumthin funny an admit in being a afraid at showing her affection in fronty of her friends and my friends cuz of wat they might say or her and recently i messed up i ignored the whole time i was chillin with her an her friends and mine cause i jus stay quiet and dont know wat to say and be funny or interesting i know for a fact i can wit this girl if i can just be more interesting talk more to her an her friends and show her more affection but i just clueless i need help

and i really need help in being more interesting cause when we hang out she pays more attention too my friends cause there always goofing around makin them laugh i wanna be like that im just quiet and dont what to say to make them laugh or anything

yea but her friends r the ones pushing me to show her affection while their there

Answer 1

Your question is rambling all over the place. It makes me wonder if you have ADD. That could make you confused.

Anyway, it is normal, even healthy, to have a mourning period after a relationship ends and to avoid risks and entanglements for a while. So look at the situation from that point of view. She likes being around you because you're safe, not threatening. Maybe she doesn't need someone who's always funny and "interesting". And I'm pretty sure she doesn't want a public display of your affection. So do what makes you comfortable and lay off the worrying and you'll be fine.

And finally, don't worry what her friends think. They aren't wise enough to understand the situation and they're probably projecting their own issues on your relationship. If you don't know about projecting, read up on it and you'll understand a lot more about how people are acting.

Answer 2

Okay.

First, there's no need to get to worked up right now. You'll have your chance. She says she's not ready, which works for you because right now, to be honest, you're going to need a little time to collect yourself. I'm sure you have interests and all of that good stuff, its lame and everyone says it but all you really need to do is be yourself. Yes it probably would've been nice to give her a little more attention, but just because she says she's not ready doesn't mean the game is over yet, be yourself, be confident in yourself, you're going to be fine. Give her and yourself some time, you can still get to know her and who knows from there you might just win her over. So ask about her interests, talk about yours, and get to know her better. Then try again. Good luck.

Answer 3

GIVE HER TIME, SHE NEEDS IT. ASK HER AGAIN AFTER A WHILE. DON'T GIVE UP ON HER. SHE PROBABLY IS STILL CONFUSED ABOUT HER FEELINGS WITH HER EX. SHE PROBABLY DON'T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW BECAUSE SHE WAS DISAPPOINTED ABOUT HER PAST ONE.