I am depressed.?

Question

I am 12 years old and I am depressed. I got all D's and two C's on my report card, I have no friends, my teachers are horrific, my school counselor does not like me at all, and my parents just do not understand, and I have been trying to help them understand. I am sick of school and life. I am also fat and ugly. I havw an urge to slit my wrists, I think about it EVERYDAY, but I am scared to slit them. I need help. What should I do?

People have been IM-ing me asking how much i weighed and how tall I am. I am 5"4 and I am 98 pds...

Answer 1

Depression is really hard specially when you at your age. I was your age one. I was over weight compared to the other girls in my class, but I was scared to tell anyone how I felt. I don't know why but I tried to live up to this image that everything was alright... that we had a happy family.... i thought about running away many times, I thought about death all the time.

that was 21 years ago when I was 12.... I have been a cutter, been a binger/purger, starved myself, overdosed on pills, been in the hospital so many times that the staff should almost know my name by now....

I know it is hard to do, and I struggle with it too, but do things you enjoy, that are healthy to do.... I have a list of them, but I don't know where that list is.... and it is a long list of self-soothing activities. It will take your mind off of wanting to hurt yourself. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe from hurting yourself... because if you go to the hospital.... you don't know what it will be like. plus it puts a stimga on you....

I thougth I was fat and ugly too... I can see that I am pretty now, but can't see that I am shapely. I see fat... all over fat, and righly so... I am 250 pounds... be careful if you do go on meds to help the depression make sure weight gain is not a side effect. What you see in the mirror is who you believe you are. No matter how many times some tells you are a beautiful person... it isn't going to matter until you believe it in your heart....

Journal, blog, write your feelings out... track them, see if there is any pattern to how you feel, I wish I could give you a good website to say check this out and do this or that... but it is all you .... what do you want to do about it....

But I ask you to do something now to make yourself love yourself, so that as you grow older it doesn't get worse.... tell your parents, a trusted friend, a counselor, or get a therapist.... something talk it out... work out what is going on in your mind. because the stuff you worry about today will be the stuff of the past you will worry about in the future....

Answer 2

Please don't cut yourself. If you can't talk to your parents, talk to a trusted adult, maybe a teacher, although a therapist of some sort or doctor would be best.

I totally understand how you feel. I remember feeling the same way when I was 12, and that was 26 years ago in 1982. Hey, you may think you're overweight or whatever but I'll bet you don't stick out like I did... I was 6 ft tall at age 12 (stopped growing at 12), so imagine being one of the only white people at a school that is pretty much all Asian & Mexican, which are both generally short people, and being a 6 ft tall girl with red hair. I got picked on daily and was severely depressed. My parents didn't care either (not saying yours don't, just that you seem to think they don't understand). Somehow I made it to my 20's and finally got help from all the years of being depressed.

Let me tell you that it DOES get better!!! Now I'm in my 30's and I love my life and am really glad I didn't end it!!!

If you feel fat, just try to eat lots of fruit & veggies and avoid breads and junk food and you will drop weight quickly. I think middle school can be like the worst part of life, especially cuz kids are so mean at that age. Even high school is a lot better than middle school, and college totally rocks!! You can email me if you need a friend to talk to but otherwise I really hope you feel better soon. There are people out here who care, even if you don't know us.

When you get to be an adult things get waaaaaaaay better so please give things time. At least you have the online community today, I didn't have that in the '80s.

Answer 3

I've been where you been. I sorta still am. I can't tell you life does get better because sometimes it doesn't but you can try and make it! You have no freinds? It's okay! You don't always need friends. You can have your family, online friends, people that you meet in groups. Don't slit your wrists. It will NOT solve anything. It may be an outlet for pain. But think about it, you're putting a razor to your skin and making a self-inflicted cut. You can get diseases from that if germs get into it. I do not believe you are fat and ugly. Everybody is truly beautiful. If you're feeling down. Find ways to make yourself feel better. Try new make up, take a hot bath, exercise, eat, watch a movie, play a game, tell your parents how much you appreciate them, or read book. Depressions not easy, but you can get through it, with a therapist and anti-depressants. Things will work out and if they don't, atleast pretend they are. You're an important person thats why you're here. Don't let ANYTHING bring you down <3

Answer 4

Warning, Christian answer:

I suggest that you stop taking anti-depressants medication if you are, unless it is herbal, and turn to God for help first. I also suggest you read what Job, the man mentioned in the Bible who went through intense pain and suffered the loss of all of his family. Even his friends turned against him and made long speeches against him. Despite that, he was rescued by God and is now known all over the world for his victory over Satan's attempt to completely turn him against God.

And here is my story:

Without God's love, you will always crave more and more and never be content.

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Also, you may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14 and of course, instead of the bullies being punished I was the one who got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends while there (and still have about none). Soon after attending that school I was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out and being mistreated at nearly all the jobs I had by coworkers or bosses who harassed me out of them. But, God saved me and helped me beat my depression and allowed and helped me to accomplish some great things that I can take comfort in having accomplished no matter how miserable. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now since he's opened my eyes.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 5

Follow the advice of Jessica I will just add this To help you to get out of the depression start by one thing at time and you should start by loosing weight Its so easy at your age Just cut off all the junk food and you will loose 20 pounds in a month

Answer 6

you should tell your parents I started cutting when I was twelve and I still can't stop, you have to get help, I also am depressed, and one day I told my mom and she told me it's because of my body, I'm also a little fat, but I told her that wasn't it which it isn't I am depressed cause of school too, don't resort to cutting it's an addiction, you should tell your parents, my parents are so blind, they see the scares I have and say, oh you have to be careful, but it's so obvious I cut, and I guess there just blind, so please talk to your parents I know how you feel, don't let it get any worse.

Answer 7

you need to tell your mother how you feel ask her to get you in to see a doctor ,but don't give up giving up id for losers and if you got on here and asked this question i can tell you aren't a loser , really tell someone how you feel ,also there is home schooling maybe that would work better for you .but for sure tell someone

Answer 8

Get help tell your faimly , tell any adult you trust. Get a thripst. I Have Bi polor disorder my self, but Medaction and suport from loved ones realy helps. Your not alone, and you dont need to go it alone,

Answer 9

... ok well go tell your parents how you feel.. i started cutting when i was 13.. im now 16.. and cant stop.. trust me its not something you want to get into... ask to change schools.. get a new start... and i think you should really go see someone who can help you.... GO TELL YOUR PARENTS NOW!!!!

Answer 10

Believe me....I went throught the same thing when I was in school.......talk to your parents....they need to know how you feel......don't do anything to hurt yourself....it does get better...I know it may not feel like it now, but it does get better!!!!