seems like my destiny or fate is for people to hurt or use me...i always meet guys like that..why can't i find a decent guy that actually cares, thats all i want..im so hurt
2007-11-11 16:33:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not just guys, just people in general..
2007-11-11 16:34:56 · update #1
i dont pick the wrong people on purpose.....if their nice people they wouldnt try to hurt me
2007-11-11 16:42:46 · update #2
bai - I dont agree with your last sentence, i think in order for a relastionship to work we need to care and love them but we need to expect for the other to care and love us in return. it takes two for a relastionship to work..i think what your trying to say, its to love ourselves regardless of what people might think of you.
2007-11-12 04:02:15 · update #3
The problem with you is that you are not loving yourself enough, therefore, you let these guys or people hurt you. You need to love yourself and that way, you'll be stronger. You have to have self esteem and great confidence so that you do not depend on anyone else for your own happiness. The minute someone can dictate how you feel about yourself, you are at their mercy. You need that 'edge' and show those guys that if they don't respect you for you, you would not be around anymore. Speak with your own actions and let them taste their own medicine. However, you need to love yourself first in order to make things happen.
2007-11-11 16:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are on the same boat. I tried to reflect what went wrong, why I always end up being used...then I realized it's because I allowed them to use or hurt me.
But don't worry, someday someone's gonna love us, the way we want to be loved and cared.
But for the meantime just enjoy life, and learn from our past mistakes.
My friends told me, people like us often get the feeling of being used and hurt because we do something, hoping that the person will do the same thing in return. Like we showed how much we cared and loved them, hoping that they will love and care us back, but if not, we are very disappointed, feeling not loved nor cared.
So to avoid these kind of feelings, I think we should love without hoping something in return. Ah I know it's hard, but let's give it a try.
2007-11-11 17:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Soop3rNLuVkJB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. People hurt me all the time. Despite that, I have found terrific friends and a guy who may actually like me, but I will never forget those who have pushed me around. You can't let yourself be pushed around. No matter how hard it may be, you have to stand up for yourself. I used to do everything poeple told me to do, but I slowly started to see that it was hurting me more than helping me. Just don't stoop down to their level. Be yourself and don't say anything nasty. People will respect you for being kind and strong. As for guys, they come and go. There are more fish in the sea. Y ou just need to keep looking until you find the one.
2007-11-11 16:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by smr44858 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to hurt your feelings, but you have Low self esteem and maybe not on purpose, but you are looking for the wrong type of person.
Be more assertive, have a more positive outlook on life and hold your head up high, as if nothing can knock you down, and you will begin to show people of this world that You are Number one and people who will want to be around you will start noticing you...
It's all about your Inner being !
2007-11-11 16:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by simpleminded 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a really ugly guy! They are a lot less likely to break your heart! Well if you don't want to do that then just try to get to know the guy before you get to deeply involved with him. That way if he does turn out to be a jerk then you won't be so hurt. Be yourself and try not to let the bad relationships get you feeling too down, we all have those and they really do suck but you'll find the right guy soon! Good luck!
2007-11-11 16:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by lil' moosey_giggle bear_ :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you looking for friends, or boyfriends? Seems like women always want the macho tough guy and then are amazed when he turns out to be an insensitive jerk who slaps them around just to make himself feel better. Try spending time with the nerd, or the older guy, or maybe the guy who doesn't try to be all macho all the time. You never know where you will find love.
2007-11-11 16:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let people use you say no some times.Some guys will use you to get sex, you don't do that unless you want to. If you say the guy dumps you he is a user because he wants sex.Don't make your self so available. Just remember you are special and unique. Don't be a door mat for any one. Good luck
2007-11-11 16:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kaye B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not looking for a guy that will be the nice guy with you. You need to stop blaming other people for hurting you, and blame yourself for picking the wrong people.
2007-11-11 16:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Don 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hun, you need to change your attitude...you need to think of yourself differently..think that you are attractive successful woman who meets only decent guys or people...with that attitude if you feel that the guy is not for you...cut it right there...think of yourself as a winner and you'd be fine girl. good luck
2007-11-11 16:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by Viola V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself, not too easy and not too tough. It's hard to know exactly where that fine line is, but you usually learn from experiences, good or bad.
2007-11-11 16:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋