LOVE question...which way should it be?

Question

Okay, first i want to say this is not a personal question but a general one....i have read several questions and answers on here and i am just curious......In the beginning stages of a relationship should we ( both men and women) compromise, be patient and let that someone else come to and show their feelings in their own time and way or should we stand fast with our beliefs of how we should be treated by someone whom we intend to have a relationship with?

If i have confused you as much as myself....just look at some of the answers to questions asked in singles and dating...there are almost always two very different opinions about how to handle relationship problems....1. be patient and don't worry 2. cut them loose if they don't change......

I am just curiuos which way actually is the best way to handle a situation that arises?

Answer 1

Be flexible.
Don't be a pushover.

Be stern.
Don't be a commander.

Love them unconditionally.
Love yourself more.

Try to get out of it with no regret.
Know that you likely never will.

Answer 2

Depends on several things, like do you love the person and if so, how much are you willing to change if you want them to change? Where are you in the relationship and how much time or history do you have together? Do you get any type of warning signs? Do you have anything in common, the same friends, sports, hobbies, likes or dislikes?

One rule of thumb I found is useful before getting into a relationship too quickly is to ask myself; "Am I ready to give this person my check book and trust them with everything I have?" If you answer no then you shouldn't get too deeply involved yet to avoid hurting the person or getting hurt yourself. When dating, it's normal to share each other’s passions so you may have to compromise your day at the spa so you can support your potential significant other’s sports team. However, compromise is also a normal part of a "committed" relationship (like being married) unless one person is always in charge and the other just plays along... your mileage will vary, drive slow and avoid the pot holes.

Answer 3

You do have a good point there. I think the best way to handle a situation is to talk it out if you can come to an agreement that suites the both of you and it benefits the relationship then great you have made progress but if talking still doesn't rectify the broblems then maybe time out to think is a good option, and if that doesn't work then a break up is the next step, It's a bit like divorce. But I don't think giving up on a relationship without talking it out is a good option, talk first then try and sort your diffrences out first before you just say I want out.

Answer 4

I believe that if it's there (meaning atrraction) then u will both know it. That could be ur pedastal and u take off from there. U should feel each other out. If he or she is in to u than gradually let them know u are in to them too. Patience definitely. But at the same time through ur conversations together that person will get to know what type of person u are. U would'nt want to guide them through something thats suppose to to come naturally. If its there than the person will truelly show there feelings.

Answer 5

it is possible for someone to change --- in the beginning its about finding out what you like and dislike about the person and then looking at what can be changed and what can be tolerated --- sometimes its the smallest things that can cause problems ie toilet seat up or toothpaste cap open ---- it all comes down to what is most important the relationship or other things ---- and both should make adjustments --- not sacrifices because generally all they lose is a bad habit ---- best wishes

Answer 6

I think that compromise is a two-way street, and if the other person is willing to compromise and meet you in the middle, then it's fine to compromise. If they aren't willing to find some common ground with you, then why should you bend over backwards to make them happy, and make yourself miserable in the process? I think it also depends on the situation. If it's something that you truly believe in, then you shouldn't have to change your beliefs to make someone else happy. If it's something small and petty, well, we all need to get over ourselves sometimes. So to sum all that up----It all depends!

Answer 7

yeah....i've asked questions that got me BOTH of these answers. confused the crap out of me. i think the truth is, every situation REALLY is different, if the person you like wants more time than you can afford to give them, cut em loose, if the person you like won't take enough time for you cut em loose, eventually you will meet someone who's on the same page as you and it'll just happen.

Answer 8

yeah, you did confuse me a little. but I know what youre saying. Honestly, only you can really decide how you feel about that...
I mean, you should know how you wanted to be treated. And in most cases you'll probably know how youre gonna be treated right off the bat. And if its not how you want...then drop him. But, if you think it can change...and you think you love someone enough to try and work through it...you should. ya know.
Every situation will be different.

Answer 9

depends on your personality. If you're patient you can wait a bit until you find out whether they really suck or not. If you're not able to put up with it, then it'll be too much heartache and jumping out asap would be to your emotional benefit.

Answer 10

i think you feel so good about the love and how treat to other if he fallen in love so you no need to ask this question because i am thinking same like you and i sure other to ok