i can't date UGH?

Question

my parents have this no dating rule...they don't want me to "mess up the same way that they did" so they want me to court. it's really embarresing when a guy (especially one that i like) asks me out and have to try and explain why i can't date. i don't want to go behind their backs because i alrealy tried that one and i was grounded for a whole summer. but there's this guy that i really like right now and a couple of my friends have given me a heads up that he is going so ask me out. so i don't know what to say because right now he has no idea and he's going to think i'm crazy when i have to tell him...i'm almost 16, it's not like i'm 11...i'm just frusterated

Answer 1

You need to have a serious talk with your parents. They don't want you to make the same mistakes they did, but what they are doing is encouraging you to sneak around behind their backs and blatantly disobey them. Talk to them about you. Why you are ready to date, the mistakes they made and how you are so fortunate to have parents who are trying to protect, and how the taught you well the skills you need to not make the same mistakes they did. Tell them that some people in your school do things you dont agree with (like have sex, etc), but you have more respect for yourself for that.

Part of courting later in life is built upon the experiences we have with dating as teenagers. You learn what you want from a relationship, how you should treat and be treated by your partner and you learn alot about yourself. How are you supposed to find a partner that will make you happy forever if you can't learn the basics of relationships now.

I think if you go to your parents with a mature attitude and a planned discussion of why you should be able to date, the fact that you want them involved in your dating life and the lessons you already know from the mistakes they are trying to prevent you from making, you just may help them change their minds. Don't expect immediate results, but keep a mature attitude with them and you may see them soften up as time goes on.

Keep in mind, the last thing you want to do is go in all whiny. The phrase but everyone else can, all my friend's parents let them, etc will get you nowhere.

Answer 2

i really dnt see wat ur question is but i think u should be able to date if u want to, ur parents learned from their mistakes now it's time for u to make ur own and learn from em