Info: This girl I really like at my job. I work with her about 3 times a week. I think this girl likes me too, she takes different looks at me when I'm not looking. She touches my shoulders and always talks to me just about anything. She even gave away a secret about her private life. She smiles at me when I talk to her, I also smile at her and enjoy talking to her. I am a 17 year old as a junior in highschool, she is a18 year old as a freshmen in college.
Question: The problem I faced today at work, I was invited over to my one friends house, some other people were going to be there, we were going to watch this one really cool movie thats new on dvd. Me and the girl I like finish work at 8 PM. I also knew my friend wouldnt mind if I brought someone over or anything. So I asked her if she was busy that night, she said "no" and I asked her if she wanted to come over and see the movie with us, she said "no thanks Im kindve tired tonight"
Does this mean she doesnt want to go out with me?
2007-11-11 16:11:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she has a bf right now but I dunno
2007-11-11 16:14:45 · update #1
I never get time to do things, that's why I do it after work, I work 34 hours a week with school
2007-11-11 16:16:18 · update #2
But considering things, I guess she mightve been tired, I'm clueless like that, never had a gf before in my life. Just a dumbass like that so...
2007-11-11 16:25:31 · update #3
For the record, the people I hang out with are recent highschool graduates, I knew them from school. They aren't in college. So don't give me this "Doesn't want to hang out with highschool juniors" garbage
2007-11-11 23:39:11 · update #4
She's too "friendly" with you to not want to go out with you ever. But she probably doesn't want her first outing with you to be with your friends who she doesn't even know; you're better off going somewhere where you and her can get to know each other better one on one. If she still says no, then I think the message is clear.
2007-11-11 16:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by jack t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One turn-down isn't the same as total rejection, so the short answer is no.
Long answer:
I'm way past college, so I can tell you that her being two grades ahead of you is most likely a problem, and you're probably not helping your cause if you invite her to hang out with a bunch of high school juniors she doesn't know. Few college freshmen would find this an attractive invitation, and I'd worry about the ones who would. If your crowd is composed mostly or partly of other college students, then it would be more attractive, but I've never seen that happen myself.
I'd suggest trying to get her alone. I mean in a public place, but not a place where your friends or her friends are going to be around. Nothing's worse in these situations than getting interrupted by a chatty or flirty third party.
Good luck,
Houyhnhnm
2007-11-12 00:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she does like you from the way she acts. Maybe you are trying to read more into it than is really there. She could have honestly just been tired, or maybe she didn't want to go somewhere with you and be the only one that didn't know anyone else but you. Try asking her again to do something with you, but just let it be you and her and see how she reacts to that. If that doesn't work, then maybe she just doesn't want to go out with you - it could be she still likes you but maybe is dating someone else right now that she's not sure it's going to last with. I'd say at least try once more. Good luck.
2007-11-12 14:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not what it means. Maybe she's just kind've tired tonight.
And maybe she doesn't like one of your friends. Or maybe she would be okay on a date with you alone, but would be uncomfortable with other people. Or maybe she isn't ready to go out with you yet. Or maybe she has issues because you're younger and she's older.
The point being, don't take her not wanting to go watch a dvd with you and your buds as meaning that she hates you. Go with the flow...if it's meant to happen, it'll happen, and if not, it won't. Don't make the mistake of making assumptions or trying to rush things - you'll be branded "creepy" before you know if it you do that, and "creepy" doesn't get dates.
So, in a word, chill and be mature. Those two things are your best chance of getting a date with her.
2007-11-12 00:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by openairway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not completely, you may also be getting all the wrong signals. Try something more personal (but not too personal). Hanging out with a bunch of people you don`t know is not completely appealing, its kinda awkward. (And if she says she`s tired, she probably is, especially after work.) Ask her to coffee or walk with her after work. Then go from there.
2007-11-12 00:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just didnt want to hang out with a bunch of high school kids. Why dont you guys take a luch together or grab dinner together after work. If she agrees to either I'm sure a "real" date wont be too far off on the horizon.
2007-11-12 00:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet James Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she should have been a bit more encouraging if she liked you that way. I think you are too young for her. Even a year is death at 17 and 18. Not your fault though. Just continue to be nice and don't get needy or act desperate or hurt by her refusal. I bet she may even ask you out if you don't act like it was devistating rejection.
2007-11-12 00:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she didn't feel comfortable being around a bunch of people she didn't know, or maybe she didn't want to watch that movie (you could have different tastes in movies, you know?)...I think the best approach would be to ask her out to do something non-specific...For example, just ask her if she'd like to go out sometime. Then if she says no, you know she's saying no to you, and you can forget about her.
2007-11-12 00:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by jmeinada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. It might mean she didn't want to go or it might mean she was tired. Next chance you get, ask her to go with you to something casual again. If she says no a second time, then she's sending a message that she's not interested in you. And in the future, I suggest you don't ask whether she's free (so she doesn't have to lie to you). Just ask her with she'd like to go to so-so place at so-so time, and let her decide what she wants to tell you. God bless, good luck.
2007-11-12 00:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it means she was tired. If she enjoys your company, and it sounds like she does, she wouldn't just blow you off. Maybe shes afraid of having a relationship interfer with her job, it might complicate things and if she's in college she don't need complication.
2007-11-12 00:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Bxbabifinest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋