Everytime I go outside, people always stare at me, and sometimes they compliment me... and does weird things, but they wouldn't approach me... I see a lot of nerdy/geeky girls with so many cute boys now, holding hands with each other, etc... And then there's the backstabber girls that I know and they always think about themselves... I'm 18 and I live in NYC, people outside said I'm pretty/beautiful/sexy... and I always say thank you and respond politely... So why is it that I can't get a boyfriend? Am I not good enough as the nerds/geeky girls? How can you all know that when none of you try to get to know me at all? You just stare at me from a far, and smile... but never be normal to approach me like you did with the other girls. I don't even know what to say anymore.
I don't have a pic but people tell me I look like the girl on the left and I dress like that too, my hair is also like that but darker.
http://img89.imageshack.us/img89/4544/phoebefp0.jpg
2007-11-11 16:02:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS - Before you think I'm lying or whatever, I have no benefit of lying to you... Really. I wish someone can give me the best tips. Thank you.
2007-11-11 16:03:12 · update #1
Knew this girl in my youth group many eons ago. I was 18 she was just under 18. I had purchased about 2 dozen roses for valentines day on the way. I was passing them out to all the girls and had given one to her when she commented that it was the first time any male had done that. This girl was drop dead gorgeous. It seems that no one approached her as they were all intimidated by her beauty or something.
Maybe try to make yourself more approachable and friendly. Besides...why does it ALWAYS have to be the male's problem? Is something preventing you from asking someone out? Other than your attitude I mean.
2007-11-11 16:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by tugar357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first when i read this letter, you DID seem like a beautiful, polite girl. but you said that you are always polite and never mean, but yet throughout the whole paragraph you call these girls with the 'cute guys' nerdy and geeky! maybe YOU think that you are sweet and polite, but maybe some of the guys can see right through ur act?? i say u should start to be GENUINLY a sweet girl. than you might get some tail. laterz.
2007-11-12 00:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by the LOVE DOCTOR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Coming from a old Kansas farm boy. Most of the people that give u them looks are probley pervs. other might figure there out of your league. But u can change that by getting there attention in other ways than your good looks. like talking ,Down dress one nite and see if there's a differance
2007-11-12 00:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by oopsguesswhoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, i've learned the hard way that no matter how pretty a girl is; when she puts down other girls (which from your letter, it seems like you do) guys just aren't attracted to that. they want a girl who can be confident enough to see a girl (nerdy or not) walking with a hot guy and be like "oh, they make such a cut couple".
2007-11-12 00:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by sugarandspice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what.. when I read your post... i just smiled.. and said to my self... "my my.... theres a desperate beautiful girl to have a relationship".. just a heads up.. world doesn't turn around in a relationship.. if you say what you really are... then I hope that having a boyfriend would change your perspective in life... i mean.. theres a lot of opportunities out there waiting for you to apply... don't say that your not good enough.. because a lot of people compliments you.. its actually vice versa... they are the one who thinks that there not good enough for you... have some dignity and pride for your self girl... life doesn't go on having a boyfriend.. it actually stops there.. enjoy being single!..
2007-11-12 00:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by condo_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that they feel they would not have a chance with you --- a beautiful lady should have guys chasing after her all the time --- maybe just go aggressive --- if you see a guy you are interested in then say hello and get into a conversation --- you never know ---- best wishes
2007-11-12 00:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont look for a man... u will not find one, be patient.
2007-11-12 00:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by toomuchgame441 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋