Am I depressed, manic, or fine?

Question

I have had a lot of trouble with my boyfriend in the past. Two weeks ago, I broke up with him but we got right back together. I feel like he was controlling and I don't love him any more. When he is around I feel irritated and when he tries to talk about us or how upset he is with me I just want to leave. When I try to leave he physically restrains me and I go crazy. He thinks that I have a mental illness (or, as he says, "something is really wrong") and that is why I am so irritable and weird. I think that I am just not in love with him and because he has treated me badly in the past I can't deal with him, but that there is nothing wrong with me except POSSIBLY depression. I do know that I can't deal with him but I don't want to get rid of him if I can start enjoying being with him by getting treatment. Help!

Answer 1

Warning, Christian answer:

I suggest that you stop taking anti-depressants medication if you are, unless it is herbal, and turn to God for help first. I also suggest you read what Job, the man mentioned in the Bible who went through intense pain and suffered the loss of all of his family. Even his friends turned against him and made long speeches against him. Despite that, he was rescued by God and is now known all over the world for his victory over Satan's attempt to completely turn him against God.

The Bible also teaches that it is wrong to sexually touch a person unless you are married to them and are of the opposite sex. God, among other reasons, sometimes troubles a person's life because they ignore his laws. He definitely will trouble a person forever unless they are forgiven by him before they die. I hope you know what I mean by that.

And here is my story:

Without God's love, you will always crave more and more and never be content.

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Also, you may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14 and of course, instead of the bullies being punished I was the one who got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends while there (and still have about none). Soon after attending that school I was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out and being mistreated at nearly all the jobs I had by coworkers or bosses who harassed me out of them. But, God saved me and helped me beat my depression and allowed and helped me to accomplish some great things that I can take comfort in having accomplished no matter how miserable. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now since he's opened my eyes.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 2

Sounds more like you aren't fine, but you are in a bad relationship. I mean my fiance would never restrain me if I would try to leave. The only time he has restrained me was when I was going to hurt myself, which is really I think the only time a guy ever should be allowed to.

Answer 3

It sounds like you just don't love him and your subconscious is trying to tell you that. That's why you get all irritable when he's around. You need to end it with him once and for all because you KNOW he is not right for you so why would you try to force yourself to be with someone you don't love?

Also, it is VERY wrong for him to physically restrain you.

Answer 4

Yeah, nothing is wrong with you, something is wrong with HIM and your relationship. Get away from it, don't get back together with him, and leave it behind you. You know deep down that what he says isn't true. You're irritable with him because you're not in love with him, not because anything is wrong. He's being emotionally abusive, believe it or not, and there isn't anything you can do to enjoy his company when he's being that way.

Answer 5

You're normal, you don't love this guy and you want to end the relationship and find someone else. I think he's manipulating you and using your mental health status to do it. Get away from him, take some time to regroup your feelings, do a few things out of love for yourself, then decide if you want to get back with him or not.

Answer 6

Just because u maybe manic depressive which is what it sounds like to me doesn't mean your crazy and if you your only getting treated for depression your only getting treated for half of the problem. "Your mood swings" sounds like cycling between highs, laughter, happiness, called "Manic" to "Lows" tears, anger, guilt, and the cutting and hatred and feelings of suicide. Please I am begging you tell your Dr. they will direct you to the right kind of Dr. who can start you on medication to make you feel better within a few weeks to a couple of months.

Answer 7

I would say you are not manic, maybe depressed because you are in a bad situation... but I agree break up with and get the heck away from him... if he is physically restrains you that is abuse.... don't take it... get out now while you can!!!!

Answer 8

It's too easy to get used to a bad relatioship you can get addicted to having someone to fuss with. You really just have to ask yourself " is there nothing else you know to spend your energy on ?" I wasted most of my life doing pretty much the same type thing and unfortunately you probably will too. Most of us also have to get on drugs to deal with our own simple lives you probably will too.

Answer 9

RUN!

This guy is abusing you, and causing you mental pain. You need to get away from him, now, and then you can figure out how you feel.

Answer 10

Ummm, HE is RESTRAINING You!?? Get out dear while your still alive. He knows how to push your buttons and will use it against you. Worry about yourself and your health first and foremost!