I was a homosexual or gay male if you want to call it that...that gave his life to Christ or accepted Christ?

Question

in July 1993....I attend a church in Columbus Ohio USA.I never really talked about or discussed the areas in which I struggled in such as same sex lust or anything like that due to the fact that people would treat me differently if they discovered such matters.After a while attending central teaching and home groups one of the members or males who is a Home Group leader was probing me for information in regards to areas in which I struggle in....I then told him that I struggled with homosexual tendencies as well as other areas of sin....I mean who doesnt. However, most sincere Christians love to gossip and spread all your dirt or nasty things around...and as a result...i sometimes feel that people treat me differently after finding out.My GOD.....what the Hell is up with this????? I mean...I keep things to myself and then people from all around gossip and throw attitude and arrogance out.....I really wish I would have kept my mouth shut....

Answer 1

Sorry to hear what happened.

The bad thing about religion is that people are involved.
Sorry you were tricked into the old standby:
"Hate the Sin, love the sinner"

You have to remember lots of teaching is out there, and this teaching is fundamentally ....good....

This teaching is for humankind.

Humans are fundamentally....bad.

Since there are no perfect humans out there- they cannot follow the teaching perfectly.

It is human nature to want to exclude those who are different from "The HERD".

Teaching says "Act against human nature".
People don't do this too well.

You have a choice now.
1.) Keep closeted, and hide.
(Less trouble with people, more trouble with your heart)
2.) Come out and educate other Christians that they need to understand that they are going against their own belief system, and show the hypocrites you find, a mirror. Show them that behaviors the church considers a sin, is a lot longer list then being gay. Liars and gossipers are among them- and that sin is sin- no matter what it is.
(LOTS of trouble with people, less problems with your heart)

3.) Change churches. Like I said- humans involved- nothing can be done, this is the case, and has been the case since the dawn of time.

4.) Change your belief system to include that belief that homosexuality is a viable alternative- and then find a church that also supports that.
(Go to the book store and you will find lots of material to support the belief)

Answer 2

I know what you are talking about. It is a shame that people do not realize that God called us to be witnesses, not Lawyers or Judges.

People who treat you different, are not really deserving of your friendship. You need to let them go and move on yourself.

It is strange that a group of Christian men can speak about the problems they have with lust, and each of them understands, But let one of them mention that he has homosexual tendencies and he is no longer considered one of the group.

Answer 3

and here I thought lying was also a sin--looks like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't literally