omg what should i do?

Question

my good friends dad just died today. i feel awful i feel like i piece of my heart just got ripped out and im just sitting here crying. i cant go over to her house right now. i was good friends with him, we talked all the time and he was really nice. i remember his voice. why am i so sad? i shouldn't be the one sad. my god what should i do?

Answer 1

keep ur cool around ur friend. he/she will need someone stable. send flowers to the house, and be available for him/her to talk or whatever the family might need. *hugs*

Answer 2

If you feel like that, how do you think she feels. It was Her father. I recently lost my brother unexpectedly and I had one friend to actually come to my house just to share my grief. I promise we both just cried, but that experience changed our bond. I no longer refer to her as a friend she is now my sister. Grieve, but do it with the family. They will understand. But don't just not go. The friends that didn't show up or call made me feel like my loss was not as important as their everyday lives. The ones that tell me they were to hurt to call or come by are the ones I hope to never see again. Be a friend show up, answer calls, make her laugh, remember the good times with her. She will love you all the more for it! I promise.

Answer 3

i know how you feel. Be sad. Cry.
It's for you too, as well as your friend, everyone who was touched by him.

I'm sure it's much more strange if you didnt cry and go to her house. You can write a letter to your friend. Or just go by. Cry with her.

It;s a good thing to cry, when someone dies. I read that on some book about pet loss. (i think pets are similar)

Answer 4

well, you probably feel sad because you feel empathetic. you understand what your friend is experiencing. i am sorry and i hope that you get to be there as a friend to her to comfort her soon. i think you should go and pay your respects, but also remember to give the family time to themselves--this their difficult time to make decisions and say their last good-byes. not saying that you shouldn't either, but it is difficult to function sometimes with planning a funeral. you know them better than we do, so you should know when is good to be a support and when to give room for their own grieving time. again, sorry for their/your loss. God bless.

Answer 5

Who among us can control our emotions? Talk to other friends. Have one of your parents accompany you to their house or have a parent talk to a family member on the phone. Try to make contact in some fashion. It's okay to be sad and most people resolve it by interacting with other people.

Answer 6

well it normal to feel bad whenever someone dies even if he wasnt your dad just think that hes in a better place now and occupy your mind with something else reading a book maybe excersice anything or call up your friend any friend and speak to them about how you feel good luck

Answer 7

Talk to your parents about this. They can help you through this. You are sad b/c someone who you knew is gone and you lost a friend. Please, talk with your parents. When the time is right, tell your friend how much their dad meant to you and how you enjoyed talking with him and will miss that.

Answer 8

your sad because you know your friend is sad, death is just plain sad. I would maybe call her in a while. see what would make her feel best. I am so sorry your friends lost.

Answer 9

Loss hurts, that's why you're sad. There's nothing more normal.

Let your friend know that you share her sorrow and will be there for her if she needs anything.

Then share her sorrow and be there for her.

Answer 10

i know it might be hard but he wants one of two things right now,
1. to be alone and not bothered
2. to have a friend AKA you over there with him, just depends on the person, you know better than me,