where does the plus 1 go on a wedding invite?

Question

some of my invites will have "mary smith and family" on the envelope, but what about the people where I'm inviting Mary smith + 1 guest...... where do you put that? it seems odd to put that on the envelope-

Answer 1

You never put "+1" anywhere on an invitation. You should address the invitation on the outside envelop to Mr. John Smith. Then on the inside envelope you put John Smith and Guest.

And Family is also not appropriate for the outside of the invitation, only on the inside.

One more note, And Family is appropriate when you are inviting children under age 18 from the same family (inside of the envelope only). Anyone over the age of 18 should have their own invitation even if they live in the same household.

Answer 2

On the inner envelope you would write Ms. Mary Smith & Guest. If you are inviting a family, i would put their names individually on the inner envelope. The Smith family is fine for the outer envelope in that case.

Answer 3

It goes on the inside envelope- Ms. Mary Smith and Guest. The outer envelope should be just Ms. Mary Smith

Do not under any circumstances address anyting to "and family"- that could mean anything and is very confusing to your guests. Each person should be listed on the inside envelope- that way you are clear about who is invited, and who is not.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Hi and congratulations!

If you have an outer AND inner envelope you would do this:

Outer envelope:
Ms. Mary Smith
[address]

Then on the inner envelope:
Mary and guest

If you ONLY have the outer envelope, you will HAVE to simply write on the outer envelope:

Ms. Mary Smith and Guest
[address]

Good luck!

Answer 5

Please, please stop. If you don't know people named "plus one" then you shouldn't invite them. Do you really want to turn your wedding into a Disco, open to people you've never met and don't care to meet, especially when you are picking up the tab for their food and drinks?

You invite each guest by name, even children. Putting "and guest" or "and family" on invitations (or even envelopes) will usually bring its own punishment, especially where free champage is involved. If you don't know people's names, find out. If you're not sure whether Cousin Mary is seeing anyone, ask "Mary, is there someone special you'd like me to invite for you?" If yes, get a name and address and send that special someone his very own invitation with his name on it.

If you put "and guest" on invitations, people who would have been perfectly content to attend singly will feel that they've been instructed to scrounge up some sort of date. The result is that a lot of your wedding budget goes to wine and dine people that you don't care about, and even the guests who dragged them along don't much care about.

People who call and don't have anyone particular in mind yet, but want open ended permission to bring "someone, I don't know who, but someone" should be told something like "But Lydia, we were counting on you to be available to dance with all these single men!" The idea is to make it clear that there will be other singles there, and that you plan on making introductions. Honestly, people who can't manage a basic social event like a wedding without dragging along someone to hold their hand just don't deserve to have a social life.

Answer 6

Just address it to the person you're inviting. Let "Mary Smith" fill in her guest's name when she mails back the RSVP.