The story in a nutshell. Recently, I have begun seeing a guy we will call "John". Our first date, out of the blue, "John" decides to tell me a few things about himself...one of which is "i've never been close to getting married.". I thought to myself, well this is a strange thing to bring up, but im not going to comment on it...and we go about our date perfectly fine. We got together last night, and he tells me "i have no desire to get married any time soon"...again, we were not talking about getting married, i've not said anything to lead him to think i even want to get married...but yet he feels the need to keep telling me...what's the deal here? Im 26, he's 28...yes i want to get married eventually...but it's not first and foremost on my mind...any idea how i should respond to this if he happens to bring it up again...or what exactly should i think about a guy who keeps bringing it up..out of the blue...for no reason...
Men..give me your thoughts :)
2007-11-11 14:18:01 · 15 answers · asked by shopaholic2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be concerned enough to give him a miss. He may just be nervous and insecure but if you are being creeped out by this recurring topic then you are on a loser anyway.
You could also bring it up with him and see what he says, if you think he is worth it.
Good luck.
2007-11-11 14:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Telf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is strange. He keeps bringing it up out of the blue, so it must mean that he wants to make sure that u know. He might have a problem with commitment. It sounds to me liek he doesnt want anything too serious and wants u to know that. He probably is repeating it because he wants to know your thoughts about this topic. he wants to know what u are looking for in a relationship. if he brings it up again maybe u should tell him how you feel about it, and be honest.
2007-11-11 22:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by see_n_starz_03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had commitment issues when I was single. But I never, ever was dumb enough to tell anyone I was out on a date what John told you. He has some major issues, wants to just have fun and is not anywhere ready enough to even think about marriage. Not to mention rude. Run away!
2007-11-11 22:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by yogurt777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'm a woman but i asked my hubby and here's his advice - john must be getting the late 20's jitters. you are of "marrying age" haha and obviously he's not ready yet. no big deal because like you said, you're not ready either. if or when he mentions it again just reassure him, "john, it's no big deal i'm actually not ready for marriage yet either. i like your company right now and i'd like to leave it at that, so you can relax". be open and honest. maybe he really does like you but he's afraid if you're looking to say i do then you'll be disappointed by him .... maybe he's afraid you're going to push it after a while, "i'm not going to wait around for a ring forever you know". give him a little reassurance, men are like little boys, you have to hold their hand and tell them everything will be ok. haha
2007-11-11 22:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps he's afraid that you're the type of girl that likes to rush into things. But most likely he's not into a committed relationship.
If he brings it up again, just say that you're not exactly close to thinking about marriage either, and subtly change the subject.
2007-11-11 22:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All boys talk about marriage as reassurance to the girl. That's to prepare the girl mentally. Girls don't like to go with guys who don't like to settle in life principally. So all boys keep talking about happy married life even when they don't have such plans in near future. Still they talk as assurance. Simply **** him off, if he keeps talking as he is trying to cheat U, so that U get into bed with him. If U want to go in bed with him , no problem.
2007-11-11 22:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by sandeep m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we used to say.......back in the day...........grab a taxi, Maxi. Hop on the bus Gus, slap those bricks, Rick, slip away, Jay
2007-11-11 22:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Bob H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds desperate and I suggest don't get married to him. He sounds like he is up to no good.
2007-11-11 22:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to date with no commitment ever.
2007-11-11 22:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by optitkl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
insecure, cold never be a husband, just there for the banging, shoot him, he's messing it up for us goooood men
2007-11-11 22:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋