I been in a relationship with a friend for 3 months and at times it feels like when we are together, we run out of things to say. I mean, its not all the time, but it happens once in a while. The conversations are not as deep anymore, more like how our day went and telling stories. Don't get me wrong, its not like we are uncomfortable with each other or anything, we enjoy each other's company and trust each other alot. Its just that we are so comfortable with each other that the passion is thin since we are seemingly as friend and lovers at the same time. We see each other atleast 4-5 times a day since we get off college at the same time.
I was wondering if this is normal? What are some topics we can talk about to spice our conversations up?
2007-11-11 13:44:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is pretty normal what you described. Everyone runs out of things to say when they spend a lot of time with each other. It sounds like the two of you are spending a lot of time together, so don't have a lot of individual experiences to discuss. If you did a few more things independently with different friends there would be a lot more to talk about, and also makes you appreciate your partner more.
2007-11-11 13:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having some quiet moments in a relationship is normal. This shows that you really don't need to be doing anything to be enjoying each others company...the two of you feel good just being in the presence of each other.
One thing I would try to do is not see each other as often. Seeing each other 4 or 5 times a day, of course you're going to run out of things to say.
Maybe narrow it down to a couple of times a day so you get a chance to miss each other, then you will have many more things to discuss.
2007-11-11 13:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by iredescent24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable. - Dave Tyson Gentry
Silence - The only true method of determining the level of a relationship. A silence in new relationship, where two people are just getting to know each other, is awkward. The less you know the other person, trust them, love them, the more awkward the silence is. Vice versa, a comfortable silence will only happen once two people know each other, they can just sit quietly without the pressing urge to break it. Then the intimate silence; a silence that seems intentional, timed and rehearsed to a third party but is completely impromptu. This silence only happens when two people can simply loose themselves looking at each other. It can only be properly broken with a kiss or a “I love you.” - urbandictionary.com
2007-11-11 13:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by LimboChamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely normal! The trick is getting out there together and experiencing some new things together! That'll provide you with so much more to talk about ;-) Read books together or go on hikes, works for me! But don't get down if there are some silent moments! If they are comfortable it's a sign of a good relationship!
2007-11-11 13:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you both bored. You should never have to think of topics to talk about. Flipping heck! Are you for real? Thats the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard. Wot you gonna do? Sit down with a note pad and write out what you are gonna talk about over lunch! Thats absurd! COnversation between your partner should be the most free flowing and natural thing in the world. Take it from me kid - Move on! And find someone you can chat till the cows come home with. x
2007-11-11 13:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with a comfortable silence but being in college, I just don't buy that you guys have run out of things to say. There's so much to talk about, especially your feelings about the future.
You may be good friends but probably not soul mate material. I've been in a relationship for four years and we always find something to talk about.
2007-11-11 13:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by HXT1138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i really think it is normal bcus i have been wit my boyfriend for almost toyears and we talk on the phone every night... Sometimes we are quiet but its not that we have a boring relationship its just that we tell eachother everything and we run out of things to say.. we dnt jus get off the shone when we our queit cus we are so deep and love i could jus sit on the shone all night and listen to him breathe!!! Good luck in ur relationship!!!
2007-11-11 13:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
silence is normal in a relationship that is not so young anymore. what you have to look out for is the kind of silence you guys experience. so as long as the silence is comfortable for both parties, then things are doing well for you both. if the silence is uncomfortable, then you are probably growing apart...
2007-11-11 13:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Captain Planet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Once your yourself with someone it gets like that sometimes, i guess it's like an unspoken bond or something. Tell your friend if it bothers you so much, but the important thing is that you value each other which it seems you do.
2007-11-11 13:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by no_trabajar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age, he may be curious yet that would not make him gay. He could word which you're slightly effeminate and would not prefer to break you. in case you prefer his friendship, do no longer take it extra. do no longer attempt to touch him intimately as day after at present, he may be so embarrassed which you will no longer see him back. you have made it sparkling to him the form you're. permit him come to you presently if that's what he needs. in any different case in basic terms be like a buddy to him.
2016-11-11 05:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by prottsman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋