i'm not suicidal.........right?

Question

i have had thoughts about killing myself before - yes, i have a problem with depression but my issue right now is whether or not i should get help. yes, i've had thoughts about it. NO, i would never in a million YEARS actually DO it. but i can't help but wonder how much easier life would be for certain people if they didn't have me to worry about. someone please help...i am a 14 year old girl and i have a lot on my mind. too much to deal with this right now. any suggestions?

Answer 1

If it helps you any we all have had thoughts of killing ourselves that is a normal thing to go through. It is very important that you do not act on it.

Know that you are loved and unique there is nobody like you and there will never be anyone like you. You are one of a kind. God has a purpose for you life you were not a accident he knew you before you were born. His will is not for you to kill yourself he would be so grieved over you. He loves you so much he sent his son to die just for you.

Try this start with a prayer to God ask him for his strength when you have none of your own he wants to help you he wants to give you love and protection comfort joy and happiness all you have to do is ask him for it. Tell him what is wrong so he can heal your heart. You have nothing to lose by praying and everything to gain give it a shot. You can pray by yourself and nobody will know except you and God.

By the way God is open 24/7 he never goes on vacation and he is always interested in you. Peace little sister and I will be praying for you.:-)

Answer 2

It's somewhat common for people your age to have depression and thoughts of suicide. Adolescence is a tough thing to go through these days and affects a lot of teenagers like yourself.

However, even though it's common, that doesn't mean it should be taken lightly. I'm very glad to hear you say that you would never do it...but keep in mind that a major bout of depression can make you do things that you otherwise wouldn't. The simple fact is that sometimes we human beings don't think rationally, and need someone else to come alongside us who is thinking rationally to help. There's nothing wrong with that.

I doubt that you need professional therapy right now, but as I'm not a therapist I'm not necessarily the best person to ask. I am a youth minister though, and I know that it's a good idea if there are even some thoughts of suicide to get help from people you trust. I would suggest telling an adult that you trust, either a parent, or perhaps a youth minister at your own church if you go to one, or a school counselor. It might help a lot to talk things out and just be safe. Adults like these are here to help you through whatever you're going through. Good luck!

Answer 3

Ok, when i was younger, early teens through 15 i was what's now considered "emo" and somewhat suicidal so i can understand somewhat where you're coming from. As far as help, counselors don't help, just like with anger management sessions...I'd recommend finding someone that you TRUST a WHOLE LOT, someone that's mostly positive (a negative person isn't totally bad but you want someone that will have a good effect on you) a person that will actually listen to what you need to get off your mind. Family is awkward cuz they're family, parents, they'll wonder. Friends (close ones) are there for you and will hold secrets.

Best advice from myself is find a good friend, the #1 compadre, the "best friend". :D
Or. if you wanna talk to me (sure i'll listen) then uhh....contact me somehow...

Answer 4

I too thought it was silly when my mom was warned that I might try to hurt myself, but my parents abused me so much that I tried to kill myself more than once.

Warning, Christian answer:

I suggest that you stop taking anti-depressants medication if you are, unless it is herbal, and turn to God for help first. I also suggest you read what Job, the man mentioned in the Bible who went through intense pain and suffered the loss of all of his family. Even his friends turned against him and made long speeches against him. Despite that, he was rescued by God and is now known all over the world for his victory over Satan's attempt to completely turn him against God.

And here is my story:

Without God's love, you will always crave more and more and never be content.

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Also, you may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14 and of course, instead of the bullies being punished I was the one who got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends while there (and still have about none). Soon after attending that school I was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out and being mistreated at nearly all the jobs I had by coworkers or bosses who harassed me out of them. But, God saved me and helped me beat my depression and allowed and helped me to accomplish some great things that I can take comfort in having accomplished no matter how miserable. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now since he's opened my eyes.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 5

The best thing to do befor you go to a shrink is to talk to some one. It can be a very good friend that you trust to be honest with you or a close famaly member.
It doesn't have to be some one older (but it's good coz they'll have some more life experiance than you do) it can be some one in your age group.

Uou have thought about how other people's life will be easier if you are not arround. Have you thought about how the people close to you will suffer if something happend to you? that suffering will scar them for the entire life.

Most people don't know that you have problems unless you talk to them. When you talk people who cares about you will listen to you and they will show you how much they care and willing to help you. Plus it will feeal realy good, trust me.

and if you don't have/want to talk to some one you know about, then you might need to get some professional help.

there are loads of websites to help you, just visit them and contact the people. they will help you out.

I wish everything will be ok for you and have a merry X'mas

www.angelfire.com/on3/teensuicidehelp/
www.whispy.com/suicide-help.htm
www.DailyStrength.org
www.FamilyFirstAid.org

Answer 6

Talk to someone about it. It doesn't have to be a shrink or anything. Talking to strangers, especially about suicide, is hard and creepy. Especially when you are paying them and are on a time limit. You can't get your true feelings across. Try a close family member or a good friend. You have to realize every person you touch and how affected they would be if you weren't in their life. Suicide is the most selfish act there is. Even thoughts should be duly noted.

Trust me, I've been there. I am twenty now, but when I was about your age, I had the same thoughts. My life sucked, and I felt like I had nobody there to talk to. But I dealt with it, and before long, my life turned around and things started to look up.

I'm not trying to preach to you, and I know you have mentioned that you wouldn't TRY it, you have just thought about it... But seriously if you need someone to talk to, email me anytime...

Answer 7

The first thing you have to begin to realize is you are not alone!!! We all have bouts of depression. My prayer for you is that you'll somehow see how very very special you are. You don't have to be perfect. This is want makes you so unique and wonderful. There is so much to life. You're too young to think it's over for you. The whole world is ahead of you! How wonderfully exciting!

There is a new dawing.....A new daylight!! Don't bottle it up. Share how you feel with someone you can trust.

Answer 8

No, ofcourse you arent suicidal. But, if you tell yourself that, you will be. Your life seems to be really jumbled up. If i were you, I would get a calendar to keep track of school work. I dont think you haev depression- actually i doubt it- but when you tell yourself that, you might get it. I would definetley prefer getting help, ASAP. Dont feel shy, it will make like much better for you. Also, if you r having porblems with friends, ditch the ones that are bad, or help increase your "depression". They might be really poular or really nice or w/e, but that would be SO much easier for you. Youare young and you shouldnt have someone as a freidn if they stress you out. Its to much for you. Concentrate on school. DONT EVER EVEN THINK OF HURTING YOURSELF!!!!!!!! i really hope i helped. Good luck!

Answer 9

I'm 14 years old as well i think bout it to MUCH but its hard ..the thing that i did was i told someone i can trust someone that is close and they told me to see a counsellor before it gets to far but no that isn't suicidal they are thoughts

Answer 10

Alot of ppl have had those thoughts before.. It's just the trick of the Devil who wants you to kill yourself. It always start at the mind so it's a mind thing.. Try to think about positive things, read the Bible or take a walk alone and think about what's bothering you. Pray and ask GOD, to help you with your negative problems.Take your time.. If it takes to cry, cry. Cryin' always helps..