I find funerals difficult to attend, therefore I usually wont attend, when it comes down to it. There is an upcoming funeral for a person I once was close to a long time ago and I am today feeling like going however I feel strange about going due to the fact that it has been about 7 years since I had contact with her.
2007-11-11 13:21:24 · 18 answers · asked by SimplyHappy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Having someone tell you what is the "right thing" to do or not, is ridiculous.
The "right thing" in these circumstances, is what FEELS right to you, in your heart.
If you think you can say goodbye to your friend on your own, in your own way, in your own time, then I think that is the best thing for you. If you think you'd like to go and socialize and spend time with others remembering your friend, then you should do that.
Don't let anyone tell you what is the right thing to do when it comes to grief. The right thing is different for everyone.
2007-11-11 14:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Will Attend A Funeral On Two Conditions:
1.I Liked The Person
2.I Respected The Person
Other Than That i Believe It would Be Blasphemus To
Attend One.
2007-11-11 13:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I go if it's a family member, a good friend or someone who was once close to me (as in your case). For the latter two, I do it out of respect for the person. I also find it uncomfortable but it's my way of saying goodbye.
I don't go to funerals where I don't even know the person. For example, when my co-worker invited me to her friend's funeral, I politely declined as I don't know the person.
2007-11-11 13:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by jdhs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were close friends 7 years ago if you can go you should to pay your last respects. Her family will appreciate the gesture that you took the time to do so. I think most people understand that sometimes friends are separated by busy times and just the day to day commitments. It is really just a decision that only you can make after a little soul searching.
2007-11-11 13:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tarheel mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older I get, the harder it is for me to go to funerals. It isn't always that it is such sadness for the deceased, as it is that I am reminded too much of people close to me who have died. Therefore, I don't go to many anymore, and usually only if it is a relative.
If you don't feel like going, get a nice card and write a note to her family. No one should go to a funeral unless they want to.
2007-11-11 19:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how long it has been since you have spoken that makes no difference. Attending a funeral is all about showing respect to the family and showing them that you thought highly of their loved one.
2007-11-11 13:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by mickeybettyboop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way you ought to variety of compromise? in basic terms as my opinion, I do think of he must be there for his brother. If it become a commencement or the different adventure, it could be distinctive, yet this may be a super deal to him, and that i'm having a guess your grandfather could prefer him to be there for his brother. on the compromise section, maximum airways are often prepared to artwork with human beings on bereavement exchange of plans, and in line with possibility he ought to discover a thank you to attend the marriage and then go away in the present day thereafter for Wi. Or, something interior the opposite, the place you will pass to the funeral and then go away precise after for homestead.
2016-11-11 04:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funerals are for the living ...the dead person does not know who was there and who wasn't but the family needs the support and comfort of others. When my brother died and we were at his funeral it gave me comfort to know that my friends were there for me, they did not know my brother but they were there for me. This is how I decide whether or not to go to someones funeral...If I knew the dead but not any of their family or even other friends I do not go, because it is awkward for me when I can not find any words to console them with, "I am sorry" to me doesn't cut it... If I have a friend that I know lost their family member I go to console my friend whether or not I knew their deceased.
2007-11-12 02:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by candi_k7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately nobody likes to go to funerals. Your relationship with the deceased or their next of kin determines if you should attend the funeral.
From my perspective, I think you need to be there. It is closure. You never know who you need to be there for. Put your feelings and reservations aside and face the reality of death and say good-bye to your friend.
2007-11-11 13:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Free Thinker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to decide if you want to go or not. I feel the same way as you and I dont attend many. But, if its someone that you feel compelled to go you should go. Dont worry you havent seen her in seven years everyone will be too preoccupied to know you are there.
2007-11-11 14:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋